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Galaxy
26-05-12, 13:43
I am getting really worried. I come from a very quiet background. My parents and brother don't socialise much and I am very much the same. My parents live a long way away and are getting on a bit and are reluctant to travel. I speak to them once a week on the phone but my husband sees his close-knit family every day as they live nearby which scares the hell out of me as I find it overwhelming. I also lived on my own for a long time which hasn't helped.

I met my husband online five years ago and for some reason feel comfortable with him although he is quite extrovert whereas I am the complete opposite. His family who are very sociable people, they have parties and celebrations throughout the year which I find very difficult. I can't let my hair down. They are totally different to my family who I couldn't imagine being at a party in a million years. Although my husband's family have made me feel welcome I find it difficult to mix with them and assert myself if I don't agree with them. I don't have a problem being assertive with my husband or my own family.

My husband knows how I feel and is very supportive. I have just started CBT but it is only once a month.

I worry that the differences between our two families is going to ruin my relationship with my husband.

I would like to hear from anyone else in a similar situation or has any advice as I am worrying myself sick.

Thanks

Janvi
28-05-12, 07:09
Elo,

Im Janvi. I suffer exactly like you do. Even i suffer from bad social anxiety with my in laws family while im quite good with my parent family.
I always suffer from mouth twitch whenever i have a family gatherings and photo sessions. I am trying to cope with this, because everybody looks at me in a weird way. I know i look like a fool but i cant help myself and avoid doing conversation with the members. On the other hand i even try to avoid speaking with m sister in law & brother in law who lives next to my house.
Just be brave my dear.