in between panic anxiety

[jaykay]

hi I'm new here, thanks for listening.
Does anyone feel anxious/uncertainty in between panic attacks?

not only do i worry about next attack. I feel i can't plan any future ie get married, start a family because of these panics. ie how do i maintain a relationship, look after a child if i have these panic episodes?

it gets me down and even sets off panic attacks.

i feel stuck in a circle

[Meg]

Hi Jaykay,

I think its extremely usual for the feelings of uncertainty.

The idea is to be able to control your anxiety to the point where you no longer get panic attacks - then the uncertainty drops as you know you can deal with whatever occurs in your life.

Some of it may be challenging but with support and understanding of yourself it should not hold you back from planning and living your future .


How long have you been having the panic/anxiety and what started you off with it inthe first place ?
All can recover but some is deeper seated than others.




Meg

'There can only be true courage when first there is genuine fear'

Dr.David Livingstone

[Laurie28]

Jaykay,

I can only speak from my own experiences so here goes

I had the panic attacks long before I had the 'anxiety' and the thought of the next panic attack scared me but I could usually have my panic attack and then get over it pretty quickly (until the next one came)- as strange as that may sound. The panics were about once a month (started when I was 14/15)

Then the anxiety/thoughts hit me and that was a constant thing, basically I was scared of everything and suddenly my life was consumed with 'what if's'

What if I do this and die

What if I'm going insane etc etc

I was in a permanent state of fear and I didn't know what the hell was wrong with me

I was already in a relationship when my anxiety 'peaked' and I had two children therefore it was something I couldn't put on hold. Sometimes the kids would calm me down (ie keep me busy)and sometimes I ran and hid.

You can't put your life on hold because of anxiety but you need to get control of this anxiety (i know easier said than done) There are some great pages on the website and I know Meg has done a bit about starting to get control in this forum in welcome to the no more panic forum and titles first steps to overcoming panic and anxiety(have you read it?)

There are some great people on here who will offer advise or just listen (and sometimes bring you back to earth when your anxiety is really rocketing!)

It is a vicious circle but you need to fight back

Lucky

[Tessie28]

jay kay,

yes, but it is getting better. this site will help you as it has helped me. I instantly felt a lift just to know there were others out there:).
love tess
ps i call it my 'doomhead'[V]

[diana]

Hiya JayKay,

Welcome aboard!!!! So nice to have you here. :)

I am afraid that the anxiety does come along with the panic dear.

Hope this helps a bit.

I too spend most of my days being "ANXIOUS" and fending off the infamous "ATTACK".

However some days are better than others.

I hope you have those days to.

Whatever you do, do not allow this thing to run your life.

Do not let it keep you from living and doing things you want to do. No matter how uncomfortable a situation feels at the moment.

If you do you only allow this thing to beat you, and that is something we are all trying to avoid.

It is definietly hard to get our head above the water when we are in full anxiety/panic mode, but we can overcome this and live "PERFECTLY NORMAL LIVES". Well whatever that is!!!!! LOL......... :-D

Keep at it dear, it gets better.

FYI, I have 3 children all teenagers, ages ranging from 13-18 and trust me sometimes just dealing with them is harder than I "REMEMBER" my attacks being at times. LOL....... :-D

Trust me I know/remember how horrid the attacks is/are, so that lets you know how hard I think raising kids is. LOL....... :-D

Honestly though you will get through this. We all do at our own pace.

I started having attacks at 15 years of age and am now pushing 38 so I know how hard it can be and how crippling it is.

Yet I decided to go on and marry, have children, which I might add all were delivered by c-section, and believe me by the last child I had such anxiety/panic issues that I had myself dead on the delivery table.

I can look back and laugh at that time now. :)

Beings my son (the last) of my children is going on 14, but whilst in the moment horrid, just absolutely horrid, but the pleasure he has given me over the years has more than paid for that self inflicted torture I put myself through. :)

I guess what I am trying to say is that in the long run the happiness and pleasure you will gain from a marriage and your children far out weigh the "TORTURE" of the panic monster by a landslide.

Good luck dear.

Keep us updated on how things are getting on for you.

Take care,

Diana xxxx

[april tones]

hi jaykay, as diana said dont let it ruin your life. Before i fell pregnant with my son jack, 8 months old i said i wouldnt have baby for long time as i was too panicky and wouldnt cope, i fell pregnant shortly after and here i am, and coping and loving it, wouldnt change for world. Are you engaged now? welcome to site, love april x

apriltones

[jaykay]

It just really tires me out. I don't plan to meet people in advance in case I am in a panic mood when the time comes.

living a day at a time gets depressing. anyway I'll see how it goes with the medication.

thanks

[apm]

Hi jaykay,

Not much to add to what's been said aleady, but important to not dwell on the panic/ anxiety. I had my panic attack (only one) in mid March, and the acute anxiety kicked in with a vengance (didn't sleep much for 3 weeks). Then slowly, the anxiety began lifting, and soon there was more time without it than with. Bit longer, and it had gone. I get blips (in one at the moment) where I have an anxiety attack followed by a few days of acute anxiety, but it passes with time. Time is the greatest healer! I lead a pretty normal life- I work, I am in a relationship (started after my panic, she's wonderful and very understanding), and I keep on my passtimes (golf, cricket, socialising). I look forward to the future where my anxiety is a side issue: part of me yet not defining me!

Anyway, hope this all helps. Keep the faith,

Alex.
xx

Outside a dog, a book is a man's best friend.
Inside a dog, it's too dark to read.
-Groucho Marx.

[Meg]

Jaykay,

Plan to meet someone understanding very informally and locally and go even if you are anxious and panicky.

Not planning anything is avoidance and avoiding is just creating limitations for yourself which will be hard to break later.

Yoiu can break it down into small bite size chunks and start taking control of the anxiety and breaking the anxiety down into manageable bits to overcome.

Its not easy at all but it is doable.


Meg

'There can only be true courage when first there is genuine fear'

Dr.David Livingstone

[diana]

JayKay,

Just wanted to say, HANG IN THERE!!!!! It will get better. :)

It is sometimes very hard to live day to day but that`s all we have so we must make the best of it.

Take care of yourself dear, and keep us updated on how the medication goes for ya.

Diana xxx

[Caz Fab Pants]

Jaykay,
I'm glad to see you are on meds and wondered how long and what exacttly you're on?
I wasn't given anything for my panic/anxiety for years, it wasn't until I found out my penpal had been prescribed something that I asked doc for it.
I found it a great help initially although with time the effects faded and my problems increased so I'm now trying something different (Lustral.)

Wish you all the courage in the world to overcome this and hope eventually each and every one of us on this forum get to live the lives we dream of.

Caroline
x

[diana]

Hiya Caroline,

"HOPE EVENTUALLY EACH AND EVERYONE OF US ON THIS FORUM GET TO LIVE THE LIVES WE DREAM OF"

How lovely.

I just wanted to say that goes "DITTO" from me. ;)

Take care all,

Diana xxxx

P.S. Together we will beat this thing. I know we will.