mcray1981
04-07-12, 10:15
Hi guys,
Its been a while and a lot has happened both good and bad since I last posted but a situation has came up and I'm not sure how i'll deal with it (and ironically getting anxious about getting anxious!). Before I explain I need to say that I don't want to feel this way and am incredibly frustrated and angry at myself because of it.
Basically my wife has been invited to a hen night and out of that I am being hit with wave upon wave of irrational fears and anxiety. I want her to go, I even want her to enjoy herself, I know she loves me, I know that it will be ok but despite all these rational thoughts the fear and anxiety is still there. On the night she said about it I couldn't sleep through worry.
I don't want to feel this fear and worry about this - I don't like the labels I give myself because of it (possessive, jealous), because that's not the sort of person I want to be.
I feel like crap at having to put in place a contingency plan or coping mechanism for this but I want her to go out, enjoy herself and not be at home climbing up the walls waiting for her return.
I have told my wife I want her to go and have asked a couple of trusted friends to give me some company but am still scared.
Anyone on her ever have these feelings and have any tips on how to sort it or learn to cope with it?
Please - I don't want any judgement - I am being hard enough on myself about this. I also know that being like this can push a person away so I really do want to fix it.
Thanks
Its been a while and a lot has happened both good and bad since I last posted but a situation has came up and I'm not sure how i'll deal with it (and ironically getting anxious about getting anxious!). Before I explain I need to say that I don't want to feel this way and am incredibly frustrated and angry at myself because of it.
Basically my wife has been invited to a hen night and out of that I am being hit with wave upon wave of irrational fears and anxiety. I want her to go, I even want her to enjoy herself, I know she loves me, I know that it will be ok but despite all these rational thoughts the fear and anxiety is still there. On the night she said about it I couldn't sleep through worry.
I don't want to feel this fear and worry about this - I don't like the labels I give myself because of it (possessive, jealous), because that's not the sort of person I want to be.
I feel like crap at having to put in place a contingency plan or coping mechanism for this but I want her to go out, enjoy herself and not be at home climbing up the walls waiting for her return.
I have told my wife I want her to go and have asked a couple of trusted friends to give me some company but am still scared.
Anyone on her ever have these feelings and have any tips on how to sort it or learn to cope with it?
Please - I don't want any judgement - I am being hard enough on myself about this. I also know that being like this can push a person away so I really do want to fix it.
Thanks