Savannah
12-07-12, 11:55
My nan passed away last Tuesday. I was at her bedside in hospital all day monday and I rushed to her Tuesday morning at 5am, but was too late to be with her, she had passed 2 minutes before I arrived.
Since my nan passed my mother hasn't once supported me, yet I have had to watch her hug my siblings, chase my brother etc.....I have tried to support her but got nothing back, to say it hurts really would be an understatement.
Yesterday we buried my nan, I said a poem with my sisters. My mum not once told us we did well, or said it was lovely. Then as my sisters left the wake she walked them to their cars, hugged them and waved them off. When I said I was leaving she just turned around and said 'Bye'. She made no effort to say goodbye to me or my children. As I walked to my car, so close to tears I turned around and saw her walking her sister to her car and waving her off. I couldn't believe it.
The day my nan died she hugged my brother and sister in the hospital but left me there crying. Honestly, I have never felt so hurt in all my life.
I was so close to my nan, I just can't believe she has gone. She had COPD and died from Pneumonia. It was such a terrible way to go and I miss her so much, I can't get over it and I have cried all day.
I am close to my mum but only because I call her and go to see her, if I stop then I don't hear from her and she makes zero effort, but if she doesn't hear from my brother she worries and rings him or goes to see if he is ok. I get nothing at all, I am just taken for granted that I am always there. It has been this way all my life, I had a tough childhood as my father was never at home, he was always in the pub. My parents divorced when I left home at 21. Since i left home she has only ever rung me twice and that was only because both times my sister made her.
My husband and friends tell me to stay away and let her come to me, but honestly she won't. If I keep my distance she will just say I am in a mood and leave me to it, she will just get nasty about it, not come to see if I am ok, because deep down she will know she has upset me and she is a very stubborn person that never apologises.
I have a wonderful husband and 3 beautiful children. I just feel so hurt. It is hard enough trying to deal with this grief, but my mum doing this to me too, on such a tough day has knocked me for six and I don't know how to cope with my feelings. I have just sat here all day crying:weep:
Since my nan passed my mother hasn't once supported me, yet I have had to watch her hug my siblings, chase my brother etc.....I have tried to support her but got nothing back, to say it hurts really would be an understatement.
Yesterday we buried my nan, I said a poem with my sisters. My mum not once told us we did well, or said it was lovely. Then as my sisters left the wake she walked them to their cars, hugged them and waved them off. When I said I was leaving she just turned around and said 'Bye'. She made no effort to say goodbye to me or my children. As I walked to my car, so close to tears I turned around and saw her walking her sister to her car and waving her off. I couldn't believe it.
The day my nan died she hugged my brother and sister in the hospital but left me there crying. Honestly, I have never felt so hurt in all my life.
I was so close to my nan, I just can't believe she has gone. She had COPD and died from Pneumonia. It was such a terrible way to go and I miss her so much, I can't get over it and I have cried all day.
I am close to my mum but only because I call her and go to see her, if I stop then I don't hear from her and she makes zero effort, but if she doesn't hear from my brother she worries and rings him or goes to see if he is ok. I get nothing at all, I am just taken for granted that I am always there. It has been this way all my life, I had a tough childhood as my father was never at home, he was always in the pub. My parents divorced when I left home at 21. Since i left home she has only ever rung me twice and that was only because both times my sister made her.
My husband and friends tell me to stay away and let her come to me, but honestly she won't. If I keep my distance she will just say I am in a mood and leave me to it, she will just get nasty about it, not come to see if I am ok, because deep down she will know she has upset me and she is a very stubborn person that never apologises.
I have a wonderful husband and 3 beautiful children. I just feel so hurt. It is hard enough trying to deal with this grief, but my mum doing this to me too, on such a tough day has knocked me for six and I don't know how to cope with my feelings. I have just sat here all day crying:weep: