tmcg83
16-07-12, 21:33
Hi there,
I am new here although have been reading these forums for awhile. I am looking for some advice regarding a family situation. My uncle is in his 50s and still lives at home with my gran. He has difficulties with what looks like Agoraphobia and issues arising from this including panic attacks, anxiety, depression and self esteem. He has only left the house on a few occasions since he was 16 and no one can visit my gran for this reason. Sadly, both my gran and he are in poor health as he abused alcohol for most of his adult life and my gran well at 77 is just too old now and is struggling to look after herself. My gran has been so protective of him that no one actually knows he lives with her nor are any visitors welcome. My gran gets to see her family elsewhere.
I am now very concerned because my gran does not have the ability both financially or physically to keep up care for him. He will not accept help from anywhere else. She is living in a block of flats were there are lots of drug users and youths hanging about. I think she should probably in sheltered housing but we cannot take this forward because of her fear of my uncle being taken away. My mum and the rest of my family don't know where to turn. What would be the best place to turn to for support for this complex situation. I think we can't move on if someone has to come into his house to assess him - that would be a disaster and stop support from being put in place. Ideas and suggestions are most welcome and appreciated.
I am new here although have been reading these forums for awhile. I am looking for some advice regarding a family situation. My uncle is in his 50s and still lives at home with my gran. He has difficulties with what looks like Agoraphobia and issues arising from this including panic attacks, anxiety, depression and self esteem. He has only left the house on a few occasions since he was 16 and no one can visit my gran for this reason. Sadly, both my gran and he are in poor health as he abused alcohol for most of his adult life and my gran well at 77 is just too old now and is struggling to look after herself. My gran has been so protective of him that no one actually knows he lives with her nor are any visitors welcome. My gran gets to see her family elsewhere.
I am now very concerned because my gran does not have the ability both financially or physically to keep up care for him. He will not accept help from anywhere else. She is living in a block of flats were there are lots of drug users and youths hanging about. I think she should probably in sheltered housing but we cannot take this forward because of her fear of my uncle being taken away. My mum and the rest of my family don't know where to turn. What would be the best place to turn to for support for this complex situation. I think we can't move on if someone has to come into his house to assess him - that would be a disaster and stop support from being put in place. Ideas and suggestions are most welcome and appreciated.