Zingara
08-08-12, 21:03
Hi,
I haven't been on here for a while, probably because, generally, I've been quite a lot better, or at least not in a crisis state. But tonight I feel absolutely terrible. My boyfriend has been away for eight days on holiday with his sons, and I've been staying with my parents. Usually I find his being away difficult, but this time I've coped pretty well emotionally, although I have relied on a small amount of temazepam, taken every other night, to sleep. As I say, I've generally been coping - I've had some nice evenings with my parents, gone shopping with my mum, and been to see a new friend I've made recently. But tonight my boyfriend is on his way home and I feel so desperately anxious and upset. I do love him but I feel strangely ambivalent about his coming home, and sad that my time with my parents is over. It's almost a feeling as though a holiday is coming to an end. I feel very strange and nostalgic, and I have a need to keep replaying the events of the last eight days in my mind as though to savour them, and I keep wishing I had somehow made more of them or appreciated them more somehow. It makes me feel awful to think that I am not really overjoyed about seeing my boyfriend again, although of course I do want to see him again and I do love him. We have been having a lot of problems lately and I have been feeling a distance between us, a loss of a once-powerful bond. Perhaps that's why I am feeling ambivalent - perhaps his holiday has given me a break from the problem.
Anyway, on Friday my parents go away for four nights and my separation anxiety is terrible! I feel embarrassed writing this, as I am 33 years old, but I have never really conquered the separation anxiety that I suffered as a child - in fact, it seems to get more intense. I feel anxious about my mum being away, and scared of being ill without her nearby. Can anyone relate to this? It makes me embarrassed as I feel that I should have grown out of this years ago, but somehow I just can't.
I don't know why I feel so bad all of a sudden. Anyway, if anyone can relate please let me know, but even if I get no replies I feel a little better for writing it down.
I haven't been on here for a while, probably because, generally, I've been quite a lot better, or at least not in a crisis state. But tonight I feel absolutely terrible. My boyfriend has been away for eight days on holiday with his sons, and I've been staying with my parents. Usually I find his being away difficult, but this time I've coped pretty well emotionally, although I have relied on a small amount of temazepam, taken every other night, to sleep. As I say, I've generally been coping - I've had some nice evenings with my parents, gone shopping with my mum, and been to see a new friend I've made recently. But tonight my boyfriend is on his way home and I feel so desperately anxious and upset. I do love him but I feel strangely ambivalent about his coming home, and sad that my time with my parents is over. It's almost a feeling as though a holiday is coming to an end. I feel very strange and nostalgic, and I have a need to keep replaying the events of the last eight days in my mind as though to savour them, and I keep wishing I had somehow made more of them or appreciated them more somehow. It makes me feel awful to think that I am not really overjoyed about seeing my boyfriend again, although of course I do want to see him again and I do love him. We have been having a lot of problems lately and I have been feeling a distance between us, a loss of a once-powerful bond. Perhaps that's why I am feeling ambivalent - perhaps his holiday has given me a break from the problem.
Anyway, on Friday my parents go away for four nights and my separation anxiety is terrible! I feel embarrassed writing this, as I am 33 years old, but I have never really conquered the separation anxiety that I suffered as a child - in fact, it seems to get more intense. I feel anxious about my mum being away, and scared of being ill without her nearby. Can anyone relate to this? It makes me embarrassed as I feel that I should have grown out of this years ago, but somehow I just can't.
I don't know why I feel so bad all of a sudden. Anyway, if anyone can relate please let me know, but even if I get no replies I feel a little better for writing it down.