swgrl09
13-08-12, 14:43
Well I was diagnosed with a heart murmur last year. Three doctors listened to it (at different times for different reasons) and every one said it sounded like nothing to worry about, wasn't that loud, and that it was fine. My dad also said that he had one at my age too and was no big deal. So I got over it and did not worry (for once!!! I was proud of myself).
So two nights ago I was with my aunts, and mentioned off hand about the murmur. Well my aunts went crazy (they both are hypochondriacs like my mom was - they are her sisters - but prob won't admit it) and said that one of them just found out she has some valve problem and I don't remember the name - it was really long and complex - that means that she could just drop dead at any moment. I said to them that three doctors had heard my murmur and weren't worried and my aunt said she was told the same thing all her life until this was diagnosed.
Well holy crap I got scared!!!! I actually almost got in a fight with them, as one of my aunts said she has a murmur and was tested and doesn't have this issue, and had all her kids tested and they don't either, but that I have to go get an echo. Well I told her I am having a difficult enough time learning to trust my doctors again after my mom died and would like to believe my doctors that it is just fine. I then called my dad freaking out (my fiance is out of town of course) who helped me calm down a little but now I can't get my mind off it!
Any advice? I am trying SO HARD to trust my doctors, and they all told me I am fine and no worries about the murmur. But now I am confronted with this and being told not to trust my doctor (admittedly from people who have health anxiety as well). What should I do?
So two nights ago I was with my aunts, and mentioned off hand about the murmur. Well my aunts went crazy (they both are hypochondriacs like my mom was - they are her sisters - but prob won't admit it) and said that one of them just found out she has some valve problem and I don't remember the name - it was really long and complex - that means that she could just drop dead at any moment. I said to them that three doctors had heard my murmur and weren't worried and my aunt said she was told the same thing all her life until this was diagnosed.
Well holy crap I got scared!!!! I actually almost got in a fight with them, as one of my aunts said she has a murmur and was tested and doesn't have this issue, and had all her kids tested and they don't either, but that I have to go get an echo. Well I told her I am having a difficult enough time learning to trust my doctors again after my mom died and would like to believe my doctors that it is just fine. I then called my dad freaking out (my fiance is out of town of course) who helped me calm down a little but now I can't get my mind off it!
Any advice? I am trying SO HARD to trust my doctors, and they all told me I am fine and no worries about the murmur. But now I am confronted with this and being told not to trust my doctor (admittedly from people who have health anxiety as well). What should I do?