I never want to go out anymore!

[Laura_J]

I seem to be having problems with going out with friends. I never look forward to it like I know I should infact I dread it! My friends love going out together and going to parties but the thought just panics me! I have lots of friends but only feel comfortable with around 3 of them, and Im known as the shy one in the group - which I hate because they seem to take it as something to make fun of me of, like if i add something to a joke or say say something in the conversation, they'll just say "no just no hahaha" or "youve killed it" and it hust makes me feel like crap. I always wanted to go and was never in when I was younger, so now my mums all like whats happened why aren't you out? So I have to make up an excuse. Somebody help because I honestly don't know whats happened to me :(

[kashameets]

Have you told your friends this is how you feel when they say stuff?

[flossie]

You say that you should look forward to going out with your friends. Why would anyone when they know that these 'friends' will at some time of the evening make them feel uncomfortable and mock. People who treat you this way are not real friends. A friend is someone who accepts and loves you for the person that you are, which includes all the quirks and foibles which make you unique.
Not everyone likes parties and going out in groups. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spending time with just one or two friends, maybe going to the cinema or having a quiet evening together in a pub or even the kitchen if you don't feel like going out at all. Forget everyone else, do not live your life doing what they want you to do. Do the things that please you, with people who make you happy and are respectful toward you.
Explain to your mum that you feel that you have grown away from the people you used to socialise with and that you need something different from a friend. Possibly you have matured more quickly than they have and the partying doesn't fulfill you anymore. It does happen to most of us at some point. It sounds to me as if you are a much nicer and more caring person than your friends. Tell her that at times they can be unkind and that you no longer enjoy their company the way you used to.
Friends come and go throughout our lives. There are many people out there who will become very important to you at various ages of your life. Don't feel bad about giving yourself a little distance from those who are not respectful to you and go out there and treasure the real friends you will make over time.

[Hellobubs]

I can totally relate to this Laura. I am the same, I don't enjoy going out to parties and things anymore i prefer relatively quiet nights with the good friends that I have around me. I live in a shared house and there is one girl that constantly calls me boring and a loser for not wanting to do the things she does or like the same things that she does. I didn't deal with this and it got me more and more down until I didnt even recognise myself! She wasn't the only reason for my breakdowns but she played a massive part! When I finally found the courage to say something to her she just laughed in my face and said it was only a joke and she meant nothing by it and i explained, that it meant a lot to me but she just laughed in my face again. I still live with this girl but i keep my distance from her, we only talk when we have to. I finally stood up for myself. You can do the same Laura! Honestly it might be hard at first but you feel so much better for it! I havent learnt this past year that there are people you can choose to not have in your life even if in proximity they are there. I have to live with this girl for another year! If you ever need a pick me up or a boost. Feel free to PM me. I can relate so much to you. Hope you have a good day today! :)

[stay_gold]

It sucks, sounds like the cruel side of human nature. People see a flaw or something different, they judge it in a negative way.
I know how to feel to a certain degree, I changed and became more quieter and I noticed a change from other people too, they just don't talk to me that much while I'm out with em. They know something up and they just don't care to put it bluntly.
These are the times when u find out who ur real friends are, when ur down. Just be around people that make u feel comforatable.

[Hellobubs]

That is definitely true stay_gold. I know who my friends are now and a lot of them were very unexpected I must say. And the people I thought were my good friends, just aren't. It does hit you hard at first, that expected but in the long run it makes you a much happier, confident person.

[dnielbrooks]

Friends are always like that. It is better you will tell your friends what you feel, they will understand if they are your true friends.