CuriousCat
23-09-12, 22:55
Hi NMP users.
I'm fairly new here and I think this is my first thread. I wanted to share with you all tonight an anxiety that affects me on a daily basis and it practically ruling my life. I'll keep this as brief as possible and I hope some of you are able to relate and possibly give me some advice.
Brief background info;
I was always a 'shy' child, I hated talking to people I didn't know very well and I was happier playing alone than with other children. As I grew older, my confidence grew too and as I entered secondary school I was already confident enough to be making new friends and going out with them after school. Unfortunately, before this confidence could truly develop I was bullied severely. The bullying became a part of my daily life and lasted for the best part of 5 years. Without going into detail, the events that followed were very traumatic and lead me to a point of having to effectively start again in life.
Fast forward several years to the present, I struggle now with the long-term effects of those events, but it's fair to say that I have much better life than I did back then. The anxiety I suffer with now is the worst of it all, I feel that it is a huge obstacle in my life. It stops me leaving the house, it stops me communicating with people and ultimately gets me down.
This past summer I have spent mostly in my bedroom, playing boring video games, drinking copious amounts of tea and coffee, not eating properly and smoking twice as many cigarettes a day as usual. Almost every day I have wished to get out of the house, I've told myself I'll just go for a walk round the block, but I can get as far as putting my coat and shoes on before panic hits and I give up.
I have been able to get out when I've been with family, if I've needed to buy cigarettes, I've asked my sister or mum/dad to come with me. I feel pathetic needing their support for such a simple errand and very jealous of the many people around me who don't even think twice about such things.
I'm at a point now where I can see just how much this is all affecting me, I need to break the cycle of anxiety and (I think) depression. The fear of being around other people is, in my opinion, irrational. I can't give a good, logical reason for the fear I feel when faced with the situation, it is simply a very powerful feeling of fear.
I am tempted to go down the route of medication, I'm already on pills for other reasons and although it's not ideal, I'm wondering if it might curb the anxiety enough to help me take the first steps of facing it all. At the moment, it's all too easy to sit at home in my bedroom withering away, much easier at least than facing my fears.
I don't know, I feel like I'm in an overwhelming situation, years and years of bullying followed by years and years of living like this. I know it will never change over night, but I sometimes struggle to imagine myself living any other way. :weep:
Anyway, I'll leave it there now, I've already managed to turn this into an essay! :ohmy: I thank anyone who has read all of this and of course anyone who can offer me any advice/support. It feels good to have written all of that down in a place where I feel people can truly relate.
Thank you!
:blush:
I'm fairly new here and I think this is my first thread. I wanted to share with you all tonight an anxiety that affects me on a daily basis and it practically ruling my life. I'll keep this as brief as possible and I hope some of you are able to relate and possibly give me some advice.
Brief background info;
I was always a 'shy' child, I hated talking to people I didn't know very well and I was happier playing alone than with other children. As I grew older, my confidence grew too and as I entered secondary school I was already confident enough to be making new friends and going out with them after school. Unfortunately, before this confidence could truly develop I was bullied severely. The bullying became a part of my daily life and lasted for the best part of 5 years. Without going into detail, the events that followed were very traumatic and lead me to a point of having to effectively start again in life.
Fast forward several years to the present, I struggle now with the long-term effects of those events, but it's fair to say that I have much better life than I did back then. The anxiety I suffer with now is the worst of it all, I feel that it is a huge obstacle in my life. It stops me leaving the house, it stops me communicating with people and ultimately gets me down.
This past summer I have spent mostly in my bedroom, playing boring video games, drinking copious amounts of tea and coffee, not eating properly and smoking twice as many cigarettes a day as usual. Almost every day I have wished to get out of the house, I've told myself I'll just go for a walk round the block, but I can get as far as putting my coat and shoes on before panic hits and I give up.
I have been able to get out when I've been with family, if I've needed to buy cigarettes, I've asked my sister or mum/dad to come with me. I feel pathetic needing their support for such a simple errand and very jealous of the many people around me who don't even think twice about such things.
I'm at a point now where I can see just how much this is all affecting me, I need to break the cycle of anxiety and (I think) depression. The fear of being around other people is, in my opinion, irrational. I can't give a good, logical reason for the fear I feel when faced with the situation, it is simply a very powerful feeling of fear.
I am tempted to go down the route of medication, I'm already on pills for other reasons and although it's not ideal, I'm wondering if it might curb the anxiety enough to help me take the first steps of facing it all. At the moment, it's all too easy to sit at home in my bedroom withering away, much easier at least than facing my fears.
I don't know, I feel like I'm in an overwhelming situation, years and years of bullying followed by years and years of living like this. I know it will never change over night, but I sometimes struggle to imagine myself living any other way. :weep:
Anyway, I'll leave it there now, I've already managed to turn this into an essay! :ohmy: I thank anyone who has read all of this and of course anyone who can offer me any advice/support. It feels good to have written all of that down in a place where I feel people can truly relate.
Thank you!
:blush: