worriedconstantly
10-11-12, 22:34
Hello,
I am a female who is usually extremely responsible and together, nearly 6 weeks ago after a night out I slept with man, white British in his early 20s (in Norwich, norfolk- not a particularly high risk area I know)
We used a condom, but here's the deal, because I'd had a few drinks I then convinced myself, to the point that I now can't remember what was real and what was my mind playing games, on whether the condom worked, stayed in place, tore broke ripped, whatever.
As far as I know he took it off and never said anything about the condition of it, you probably would if it had busted right? But my mind says what if he didn't notice either etc.
Anyway these thoughs hit me about 2 weeks after the whole ordeal and I have literally been making myself physically sick with worry. I spoke to the guy, we are still in touch to this day but I've not really seem him since and he told me he didn't have anything (again all my mind can tell me is what if he's lying, what of he doesn't know himself) .. I've trawled the Internet and got nothing but conflicting information that has made me panic more - having said that a lot of the information especially on forums is from the USA and they have different guidelines - even so, I found freedom health, a private clinic who state a hiv duo test at 28 days post exposure is conclusive in terms of hiv status -
I went and had a 4th gen p24 antigen and antibody test at my local gum clinic, I take it these are the same the only difference being I had to wait for my results which you wouldn't if you went private.
It came back negative - the nurse was surprised that I even wanted the test based on my exposure, she said I'd have less than 1% chance contracting hiv.
My tests came back neg as I said, is this sufficient enough without having to test again at 12 weeks, I feel like I can't breathe because of this, the what ifs, statistics, odds and what is actually fact is really really wearing me down.
I don't think I had a risk, but my mind has played so many games on me I now can't be sure.
Thanks in advance for any thoughts or advice.
I am a female who is usually extremely responsible and together, nearly 6 weeks ago after a night out I slept with man, white British in his early 20s (in Norwich, norfolk- not a particularly high risk area I know)
We used a condom, but here's the deal, because I'd had a few drinks I then convinced myself, to the point that I now can't remember what was real and what was my mind playing games, on whether the condom worked, stayed in place, tore broke ripped, whatever.
As far as I know he took it off and never said anything about the condition of it, you probably would if it had busted right? But my mind says what if he didn't notice either etc.
Anyway these thoughs hit me about 2 weeks after the whole ordeal and I have literally been making myself physically sick with worry. I spoke to the guy, we are still in touch to this day but I've not really seem him since and he told me he didn't have anything (again all my mind can tell me is what if he's lying, what of he doesn't know himself) .. I've trawled the Internet and got nothing but conflicting information that has made me panic more - having said that a lot of the information especially on forums is from the USA and they have different guidelines - even so, I found freedom health, a private clinic who state a hiv duo test at 28 days post exposure is conclusive in terms of hiv status -
I went and had a 4th gen p24 antigen and antibody test at my local gum clinic, I take it these are the same the only difference being I had to wait for my results which you wouldn't if you went private.
It came back negative - the nurse was surprised that I even wanted the test based on my exposure, she said I'd have less than 1% chance contracting hiv.
My tests came back neg as I said, is this sufficient enough without having to test again at 12 weeks, I feel like I can't breathe because of this, the what ifs, statistics, odds and what is actually fact is really really wearing me down.
I don't think I had a risk, but my mind has played so many games on me I now can't be sure.
Thanks in advance for any thoughts or advice.