sassy
21-08-06, 19:14
i feel so utterly bad right now that i decided to post. having a phobia is one thing but projecting our phobias onto our children is terrible and right now i feel sick to my stomach with guilt.
i have a 13 yr old, 8 yr old, 5 yr old, and a two year old.
not once has my 13 yr old ever been to the dentist, my 8 yr old has been twice and neither of my younger ones have been. my 13 yr old needs a brace and prob some teeth out but is quite understandably worried sick about going somewhere she doesnt know and my 8 yr old needs lots of work done. my 13 yr old KNOWS that she should have been a million times by now and KNOWS how wrong i am-she must be so embarrassed by me.
i have only told my mother this as im so ashamed. i feel like the worst mother in the world-this is after all a form of child neglect and the fact that i cant turn back time and make all ok is ripping me to shreds.
im calling them tomorrow to get all the kids in and mum kindly said she'd take them as im so scared and feel so guilty. but my kids shouldnt have to suffer like this. i feel that they deserve more, i KNOW that they do.
im not looking for support here-i know how wrong i am and words cant change that, but has anyone else put their fears onto their kids? do you think its too late for me to sort the kids teeth out?
my daughter is never gonna forget this and will look back with such anger when she's older.
i have a 13 yr old, 8 yr old, 5 yr old, and a two year old.
not once has my 13 yr old ever been to the dentist, my 8 yr old has been twice and neither of my younger ones have been. my 13 yr old needs a brace and prob some teeth out but is quite understandably worried sick about going somewhere she doesnt know and my 8 yr old needs lots of work done. my 13 yr old KNOWS that she should have been a million times by now and KNOWS how wrong i am-she must be so embarrassed by me.
i have only told my mother this as im so ashamed. i feel like the worst mother in the world-this is after all a form of child neglect and the fact that i cant turn back time and make all ok is ripping me to shreds.
im calling them tomorrow to get all the kids in and mum kindly said she'd take them as im so scared and feel so guilty. but my kids shouldnt have to suffer like this. i feel that they deserve more, i KNOW that they do.
im not looking for support here-i know how wrong i am and words cant change that, but has anyone else put their fears onto their kids? do you think its too late for me to sort the kids teeth out?
my daughter is never gonna forget this and will look back with such anger when she's older.