DPC
04-12-12, 04:12
Being told by the person you love how difficult my depression and anxiety has been on her for the past 2 years has prompted me to face this. I have begun my confrontation with these issues and am 100% positive of making a full on recovery from them, nothing will hold me back now.
What I want to ask is has anybody any advice on how to lessen the effect of our depressions and anxieties upon those we love?
I ask this because what I have come to realize is how much of an impact this has upon those people, but who are themselves healthy and positive people in their outlook.
Its like these illnesses kill love and passion in a relationship slowly by weighing upon it and grinding it down, piece by piece, until eventually something gives. Whether that be consideration of leaving, love dying out or desire for someone else - I guess they all play a part - and for another to think these thoughts can't be too good for their own health and self image.
Whilst I'm fortunate enough that we are not at this stage, but from the conversation we had they are hovering, I've been made aware of how difficult it is for the person who loves you to not see the person they fell in love with, but in fact a negative thinking, anxious unhappy mess of a person.
It makes them feel useless, unhappy themselves and confused as to what they can do, and whether they can do anything - hopeless I guess - much like how I have felt. She understands these things, but not to the extent that she suffers from them - thank God. All she wants to see is me happy, smiling and back to being the man I actually am, and was, somewhere behind all this mess. And this is all I want also of course.
So I guess I have shared a piece about my issues, does anyone relate? And have they any advice they would like to share with me on how to manage and not consume the other person with our illness?
I begin counselling Thursday, never had it, is this a good place to mention it? Also I'm considering medication to try and alter this way of thinking whilst the counselling takes effect, which I am sure it will.
Anyway I look forward to anybody sharing anything, and I'm staying positive :yesyes:
What I want to ask is has anybody any advice on how to lessen the effect of our depressions and anxieties upon those we love?
I ask this because what I have come to realize is how much of an impact this has upon those people, but who are themselves healthy and positive people in their outlook.
Its like these illnesses kill love and passion in a relationship slowly by weighing upon it and grinding it down, piece by piece, until eventually something gives. Whether that be consideration of leaving, love dying out or desire for someone else - I guess they all play a part - and for another to think these thoughts can't be too good for their own health and self image.
Whilst I'm fortunate enough that we are not at this stage, but from the conversation we had they are hovering, I've been made aware of how difficult it is for the person who loves you to not see the person they fell in love with, but in fact a negative thinking, anxious unhappy mess of a person.
It makes them feel useless, unhappy themselves and confused as to what they can do, and whether they can do anything - hopeless I guess - much like how I have felt. She understands these things, but not to the extent that she suffers from them - thank God. All she wants to see is me happy, smiling and back to being the man I actually am, and was, somewhere behind all this mess. And this is all I want also of course.
So I guess I have shared a piece about my issues, does anyone relate? And have they any advice they would like to share with me on how to manage and not consume the other person with our illness?
I begin counselling Thursday, never had it, is this a good place to mention it? Also I'm considering medication to try and alter this way of thinking whilst the counselling takes effect, which I am sure it will.
Anyway I look forward to anybody sharing anything, and I'm staying positive :yesyes: