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annemiha

13-12-12, 13:44

Elle-Kay

13-12-12, 13:55

You don't say how old you are, but I'm now 31 and went through this when I was in my fourth year of secondary school. It was very hard, as I was genuinely terrified of going to school, and in the end my parents had to force me into the car, lock me in & make me go (with me crying all the way there). In the end though, it did get easier the more I was made to go, because I realised that there actually was nothing for me to be afraid of. Have you spoken with your parents about your fears? Or your form tutor? One thing that helped me was that, because I was particularly afraid of certain lessons, I was allowed by the school to sit those lessons out for the first couple of weeks after I went back, so that I only had to deal with getting over one thing at a time.

annemiha

13-12-12, 14:13

I am in year 10! And yeah, my parents are not home in the morning, so I don't have anyone forcing me into school until after they come home at around 3PM. There are so many problems created by not going to school, it's just the social aspect that gets me. :( I'll talk to my form tutor, but I doubt she'd do much to help me - my school do much to cater to the needs of students. And my parents get angry whenever I mention my issues; my mother things I make a lot of it up in my head and that it is not a real problem. :(

douglasstu

13-12-12, 20:58

is there anyone at school you can trust? like a nurse, learning mentor or welfare person. anxiety can be very strong when you are a teenager. i used to struggle getting out of the house to school because i was straightening cushions over and over again and other crazy OCD behaviour! I'm 36 now but remember how hard it can be. I'm a mum myself now and know how much i have going on in my life with children to look after. maybe you could ask your mum if there is a time you could chat when she's not busy and she might listen then, i dont know, its just a suggestion. i wish i had confided in someone when i was a teenager. there is so much support for people with anxiety these days you dont need to go through this on your own. good luck

Col

15-12-12, 10:38

Hi is there any alternative education centers school would allow you to go to.
I was training as a science teacher and I took time off for - anxiety / panic attacks and I've got my degree as a biomedical scientist to fall back on, but being a mum to 2 small kids my teaching career is on hold. However I have recently started volunteering once a week for a charity that specialises in providing education for teenage children, that for some reason have serious reasons why they can't stick a full week of school.
So for example some have emotional issues, some behavioral and some learning problems - so school allow them to attend an alternative education setting. The groups are smaller and we teach them using alternative methods. It's very informal, they are free to talk and use the Internet ,we go for walks with them, it's really refreshing change to the ,stuffy classroom situation ! There are a few of these in Sheffield , the kids who I've been working with are Y9-Y11 , they are still attending school a few days then, they come to the center and are working towards a qualification also, we do follow the curriculum but we use alternative ways to teach and a lot more arty things and local groups come in and do activities with us and talk.

Just a thought, I wonder if you could have a chat with your schools pastoral department, explain how hard this is and it's affecting your future and are there any alternatives. Ie working from home 1 day a week or, attending an alternative schooling programme , or could they let you sit in a room , to give you breathing space instead of sitting in your normal lessons.
This needs sorting , it's your future that could be affected.

Good luck and Takecare

jayjoe18

02-01-13, 17:58

I was so scared to go to school each day it made me feel sick. I'd regularly pretend I was I'll to stay home and a couple of times I only managed a morning and had to go home because I panicked that much. I had a great group of friends and was in with the 'popular crowd' yet I felt so shy because of my anxiety, by year 9 of high school I was just a shell of the person I used to be and I could barely talk to my friends that were my best friends since the start of primary. I was barely in school in year 9-10 and would walk all the way home during dinner as I couldn't face the social side of it. It was hard at home too because my mum though she was understanding, she was angry because she knew I was missing out on my education. Many times she would force me in and once she literally had to drag me down the stair and carry me to the car. Very embarrassing to think about now! Every morning was a horrible and I'd always be in tears. When it got too difficult my teachers offered me half days instead and I'd catch up with missed work in my spare time. In the end I was signed on the sick by my GP and just taught myself from home, only going in for exams or important lessons and that was a struggle! It was probably one of the worst decisions that could of been made for me to leave school as everything just got worse and that's when my anxiety grew into health anxiety, phobias, etc. I did well in my exams though don't get me wrong but missing out on the social side of things (even if I was shy) just missing the structure of the school day and going out every morning made it tough to go out ever and I then started avoiding going out all together. So as tough as it is I'd recommend you stick it out unless it starts to make you ill and to the point where you can't cope anymore. Maybe you could ask for some therapy between school to help?

Rls1994

03-01-13, 20:10

Hiya! Anyone here have trouble with making themselves do something they know they need to do? I'm currently in school and have trouble getting out of bed in the morning because I'm scared of what will happen whilst in school. I have friends and am very well liked but I fear that I'll always have a bad day, no matter what. If I continue to miss class I will fail gym.. again, and I already have 15 absences; if I get 2-3 more, I reckon, I will fail :weep:
School is such a normal thing to go through but I can't seem to get myself to go - it's absolutely frustrating and makes me even more anxious.

Hey there! :)

I'm not in school now but I had exactly the same problem as you, except that I hated school because of how lonely I was there and there was some other horrible issues as well which I won't go into detail about. I had to have a parent take me there every day, otherwise I wouldn't have gone in. When I had to go on my own somedays, I would go only as far as the school gate and suddenly freeze. That's when I used to turn around and return back home. In year 10, I was so bad that I had to be pulled out, and taken to a very small building with only 7 people in, and I got my stuff done there.

Although I had missed a lot of school, I managed fine. I didn't leave with no qualifications, although my Maths result was poor. I got an E. :blush: But a B in English and an A in Art to make up for it. :yesyes: