Frank TJ
07-01-13, 16:42
But... I am really not in a good place, and I don’t know why. Let me list everything that is fantastic about my life:-
I am (as far as I know) a healthy 33 year old man
I run 10k a week
I own my own property
I have a half decent job with a half decent salary
I married the girl of my dreams last September 2012 who I live with
She is absolutely stunning both inside and out
We had the most perfect wedding and subsequent honeymoon in Lake Garda, Italy
We are complete soul mates and our marriage is just brilliant!
Both our families currently are in good health
Both are parents are still married and completely in love
My wife keeps getting promotion after promotion in work and is doing really well career-wise
My beloved football team (Cardiff City FC) are currently top of the championship league!
I have an amazing set of friends who make me laugh a lot
I had the best of upbringings as a child in a strong family unit with some amazing holidays and great memories
I had the best of times in my 20s, living in America for a year and having so much fun!
I could go on… but I am gloating!
Yet instead of enjoying ALL OF THE ABOVE (!) I am constantly convinced that I have a serious illness and am very anxious and worried about life and what the future holds… Instead of enjoying all the joys of life and how lucky I am, I am too often consumed with anxiety, concern and worry for myself and my loved ones. At first it was normal worry, I have always been a bit of a worrier, but then since I met my wife and got married it has started to spiral out of control. I think I can trace my severe worry back to when my mum had to have a mastectomy in 2010 which we were all worried about, but she has had clear scans ever since and is in good health.
I have tried to talk to my wife about my anxiety but it’s difficult for her to understand and she takes offence from it thinking that I have a problem with our marriage and her which couldn’t be farther from the truth! My anxiety is nothing to do with our marriage. Or is it? Sometimes I feel that I love my wife so much that it hurts, I worry about her all the time considering she has a long motorway drive to work every day.
It’s almost as if I have been so lucky with so many things that I have too much to lose now. Could that fact that I have such a brilliant life at the moment be causing the anxiety? I have had every illness under the sun this year in my head and have been to the doctors too many times only to be told that I have no serious health problems… all tests clear… all tests normal. Yet sitting here now, I am worried I have a heart condition because my left hand has been tingling on and off for a few weeks now, so I am planning my next doctor’s appointment.
I just want to be able to relax and enjoy my life as it is right now. I also need to come to terms with the fact that life won’t always be this good and that’s okay, after all… that’s life!
So that’s my introduction…
I am (as far as I know) a healthy 33 year old man
I run 10k a week
I own my own property
I have a half decent job with a half decent salary
I married the girl of my dreams last September 2012 who I live with
She is absolutely stunning both inside and out
We had the most perfect wedding and subsequent honeymoon in Lake Garda, Italy
We are complete soul mates and our marriage is just brilliant!
Both our families currently are in good health
Both are parents are still married and completely in love
My wife keeps getting promotion after promotion in work and is doing really well career-wise
My beloved football team (Cardiff City FC) are currently top of the championship league!
I have an amazing set of friends who make me laugh a lot
I had the best of upbringings as a child in a strong family unit with some amazing holidays and great memories
I had the best of times in my 20s, living in America for a year and having so much fun!
I could go on… but I am gloating!
Yet instead of enjoying ALL OF THE ABOVE (!) I am constantly convinced that I have a serious illness and am very anxious and worried about life and what the future holds… Instead of enjoying all the joys of life and how lucky I am, I am too often consumed with anxiety, concern and worry for myself and my loved ones. At first it was normal worry, I have always been a bit of a worrier, but then since I met my wife and got married it has started to spiral out of control. I think I can trace my severe worry back to when my mum had to have a mastectomy in 2010 which we were all worried about, but she has had clear scans ever since and is in good health.
I have tried to talk to my wife about my anxiety but it’s difficult for her to understand and she takes offence from it thinking that I have a problem with our marriage and her which couldn’t be farther from the truth! My anxiety is nothing to do with our marriage. Or is it? Sometimes I feel that I love my wife so much that it hurts, I worry about her all the time considering she has a long motorway drive to work every day.
It’s almost as if I have been so lucky with so many things that I have too much to lose now. Could that fact that I have such a brilliant life at the moment be causing the anxiety? I have had every illness under the sun this year in my head and have been to the doctors too many times only to be told that I have no serious health problems… all tests clear… all tests normal. Yet sitting here now, I am worried I have a heart condition because my left hand has been tingling on and off for a few weeks now, so I am planning my next doctor’s appointment.
I just want to be able to relax and enjoy my life as it is right now. I also need to come to terms with the fact that life won’t always be this good and that’s okay, after all… that’s life!
So that’s my introduction…