not sure if i can cope on my own anymore

[trevor]

hi,

i am 35 and live alone cause of this stupid anxiety agarophobia an i have suffered for nearly 10 years and not told anyone i can make it about a mile or two from my home and thats it what a life eh???

fed up with it now ,

glad this ite is here not sure how i would have coped without it,,

trevor.

better to fight for something than to live for nothing

[mazz]

hey trevor dont give up hope .little steps mate make all the differnce.I was close to the same but kept fighting .Try the positive thoughts not the neg.One day may not be long you will be at the top.Good luck trev..

[polly daydream]

Hi Trev, hang on in there, seek some help mate, you are far to young to waste your life. CBT will be the best treatment for you, it has worked wonders on so many people, go to your dr and asked to be put on the waiting list as it can take up to 6 months to get treatment.

Good luck,

Polly

[manmoor]

Hi Trevor,

Sorry your feeling so down. But remember we are all here for you so you dont feel alone.

Take Care

Mandyxx

[jill]

Hi Trevor,

Sooo sorry to hear how you are feeling.

This illness IS a lonley place to be :( is there not any support groups by you, could you not ask on the forums if anyone who suffers the same lives near you and arrage a meet up. May I ask, why have you not told anyone. I know for me talking to people even if they did not understand, but just listend to me helped me sooo much.

**better to fight for something than to live for nothing** this is sooo right Trev, you keep fighting.

You take care Trev,

BIG (((( HUG )))

LOVE JILLXXX

[trevor]

hi guys thanks for your kind replys,

i really wish there was a support group or somthing here for me but nothing an jill i would love to meet up with someone in my area who sufferes but i dont think anyone else sufferes from anxiety in hull where i am from hee hee ,,
i havent told anyone cause i guess i am ashamed of this you know men are supposed to be big strong and brave not whimos,,

thanks again guys,

p.s if there is anyone in or around hull that would like to meet up swap ideas etc pm me,,
p.p.s can only travel about a mile or so,,,,

trevor,

better to fight for something than to live for nothing

[su54321]

Hi trevor,

I know it's really hard to talk to people sometimes, I had feelings pent up for ages until i felt like i couldn't take any more, went to the dr who gave me meds that i didn't want, but these days i am feeling better from just reading posts on this site and seeing there are people who feel the same as i do, chatting to people on this site and having confided in a few close people and talking to a counsellor.

Do you know if there are any phone lines you can call for help? I'm sure there is a post somewhere about a therapy phoneline or something. Or maybe even something like online counselling? It's really bad if they have no support groups in Hull, Hull's a big place isn't it? I'd come meet up with you if I could only I'm about 5 hrs away in Bristol! but you are always welcome to PM me :D

hugs,
su x

[trevor]

hi su,

thaqnks for your post,

hull is a BIG place yeah but the docs are very bad here,,you live in bristol wow cool it may as well be on the moon for me to get there lol,
anyone is welcome here would be great to chat to a fellow sufferer face to face ,,

take real good care,,

PM anytime you wanna chat ok,

trevor,:D

better to fight for something than to live for nothing

[ruthb1]

hi trevor,

im sorry you are feeling down at the minute hun, have you tried the No panic helpline you can talk to people on the phone from 10am -10pm its really good and they do a one to one support session if you join with a mentor there phone number is 0808 808 0545 and then you will be given a list of phone numbers to call, give it a go i always found they where really helpfull with me

hope this helps

ruth x

[nomorepanic]

Trevor

Have you done any sort of recovery programme and getting out and about?

We can all do it - it is blooming hard work but can be done if we want to.

You could try it too

Nicola

[W.I.F.T.S.]

Hi trevor,

I know that you've been very positive in the past and this does seem like a bit of a blip.

When I first became ill i was still able to go to places, but I've gradually felt more and more confined to my home town. I think that a lot of that has to do with new fears that have occured to me and also because i don't feel as comfortable as I used to in my own body.

My routine used to be to drop my girlfriend off at work and then come staright back home and spend the morning on the computer. I realised how unhealthy that was and how it actually exacerbated my anxiety and depression, and so I've been spending time at the gym instead.

What is it that you actually fear will happen if you go more than a mile away from home?

I would definitely say that you need more human contact and I'd be very, very surprised if there weren't some self-help groups in your area and CBT is also a very good idea too.

I 've been volunteering for about 6 months and it's really expanded my social circle. I'm still not quite at the point where I could call them mates, but I know many more people than i used to.

I'd love to have a life coach. I don't know whether you've seen programmes such as fear of flying or paul mckenna's I can make you thin, but I think that I'd really benefit from having somebody to give me encoragement and advice.

I'm sure that you are the same as me and that your anxiety levels are high, which causes you to try and avoid any possible danger, which leads to depression because you feel so limited. In my opinion, the way to beat it is to work on physically relaxing (exercise, yoga, healthy eating, proper sleep, meditation...) and also to try and work on positive thinking and having a mentality where you want to face your fears and do things. There are fewer better feelings than the euphoria of conquering a fear.

Ships in harbour are safe..but that's not what ships were built for.

[Paddington]

hi Trevor.I was gunna suggest NO PANIC too but it has been done!Give them a ring!I was the same as you ,truly iwas!I read Nicola's cbt diary on her[for her driving but it covers everything!]and thatmade such a difference to me,i donr know how really it just sunk in, that i can do stuff,if i feel awful,thats ok too just go home!It is a kind of get out clause!So what happened is this ,...i did more stuff,on saturday i went to TOWN ,in a CAR to the SHOPS and in a CARPARK ..ahg!Hey iam still here!The more little things i do anfget thru it the more i attempt.So get on the list for cbt hun ,read thre cbt post and keep posting !Good lluck,love mary rose.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore

[W.I.F.T.S.]

You see families where the parents are really supportive and encouraging, where the child and parent are more like best friends and where they share everything and do so much together. And then, you have families like mine where they can be sarcastic, controlling and critical and where there doesn't seem to be much closeness.

Whenever I feel anxious or depressed and i text my mrs, I don't think she really knows how to cope and i don't get the support back that I need.

I don't feel like I have any friends either that would sit and listen to me or who I could turn to for a hug.

It is really hard when you don't have a support network. I'm closer than my brother than I used to be, but he's not someone that I could sit down and talk to.

I have thought that it might be useful for me to have a counsellor or a life coach.

I know that we all have these images that we see on tv in our heads of being part of a really close group of friends and having a great time. Are they a reality or something unobtainable? Is it me? Do I repel people?

i don't really like going away with my mrs because she suffers from anxiety and panic attacks too and she's not really a very calming influence. Whenever we go anywhere I feel much safer having other people around- hence, why I feel quite agorophobic myself.

i don't know whether it's the same with you, but even seeing far away places on the tv makes me feel sick in my stomach. But, on the otherhand, I'd love to see the world, which makes me feel really depressed.

Ships in harbour are safe..but that's not what ships were built for.