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I used to be really self motivated and would get on and do any task but now the thought of doing anything outside of my usual routine, just sends me into a panic! Does anyone else feel like this? Even going out for a walk...I wonder can I do it? I went for a walk today but didn't get as far as my usual walk. I am suffering with a cold at the moment and I think maybe that is making me even less motivated. I used to be able to spend a day baking but now struggle to just get motivated to make a cake from a packet mix!
Annie, don't forget you have had to make some life changing decisions this past week or so after initially deciding to go back to work. This will no doubt have taken it's toll on you, even if you have made the right decision.
After a 14 year career in a safe and comfortable environment I would say there must be an element of worry and mourning to go through. You are a strong lady and have come so far. I am sure this is just a time of adjustment for you and will pass.
I wish you all the best and hope your plans for the future work out for you :hugs: x
Annie.
I feel the same.
Used to go on long bike rides etc etc. now I'm so out of breath just walking around the block as my fitness regime gave up with my anxiety.
I hope you feel better soon. Theirs got to be a light somewhere x
Annie, don't forget you have had to make some life changing decisions this past week or so after initially deciding to go back to work. This will no doubt have taken it's toll on you, even if you have made the right decision.
After a 14 year career in a safe and comfortable environment I would say there must be an element of worry and mourning to go through. You are a strong lady and have come so far. I am sure this is just a time of adjustment for you and will pass.
I wish you all the best and hope your plans for the future work out for you :hugs: x
Kittikat you are right, it has been a difficult week for me. I know I have made the right decision even though I know there are some aspects from the job I will miss. It has also been a stressful week having to sort legal forms etc to do with termination of my employment. Sometimes I think I just want to run before I can walk (I guess this can be taken literally for me since I am still struggling with the foot I fractured!). Thank you kittikat :hugs:
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Annie.
I feel the same.
Used to go on long bike rides etc etc. now I'm so out of breath just walking around the block as my fitness regime gave up with my anxiety.
I hope you feel better soon. Theirs got to be a light somewhere x
Thank you Emma...there is always light at the end of a tunnel and we will get there :hugs:
Annie,
I am the same, use to bake, use to go walks. Takes me ten minutes to put my walking shoes on. Have not done any reading for such a long while.
My GP wants me to go back to the gym-- but at the moment it's just getting motivated. Perhaps the weather has something to do with it.
Hope you get everything sorted soon then perhaps you will be improved,and
everyone else, including me:hugs:
Ahhh Annie, hope your cold goes, it might be the combined energy you've cungered up regarding work recently, it's cold outside .... Again and your under the weather with a cold , also!
I'm like this.... if I want a day at home with the kids and planned a DVD day & baking & my hubby says let's go out, all of a sudden, THAT'S it a turn into a monster! I love taking the kids out at the week end and even if it's just to the shops , or park but anything - out of the blue I can't stand! I like order and the motivation sometimes just to get dressed, is a struggle. Sometimes I could just sit in the same place infront of the fire from morning to night and honestly it wouldn't bother me. I suppose having the kids spurs me on..... That must be where my motivation comes from, otherwise I'd melt into the sofa.
Xxx
I think you are right that the weather has something to do with it (as I sit watching more snow coming down!).Maybe I will try to walk a little further tomorrow, its so hard when you want to do it but just can't seem to get the energy :) :hugs:
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Col I know what you mean but then I have always said I would like to hibernate in winter so maybe it is the time of the year. Hopefully we will have better weather soon. :hugs:
Annie
I'm sure your motivation will return once you've recovered from your physical ailments and the emotional upheaval of leaving work. Like you, when I finally left work after many years, I felt an enormous wave of relief at no longer having to make the daily effort to get to work, stay there and try to do a good job whilst battling my anxiety all day. I couldn't understand why I was so tired once I'd left! But I think it's the same thing as at the end of a day doing something we dreaded -we feel exhausted when the anxiety's actually over - and then multiplied! I'm not surprised you haven't the energy to walk a long way. Also I expect you've got a little background anxiety about what to do next - my only advice is to take your time and put absolutely no pressure on yourself. Rest up, sleep as much as you can and indulge yourself if you can. Recovery takes as long as it needs to and motivation will surely follow.
Thank you Clarrie. I have to keep reminding myself too that I am still recovering from my physical injuries after my accident last June and only being able to sit and do nothing for a few months has added to the exhausted feeling. x
Sounds like me. It's not very nice to feel like that is it Annie? I find that I'll get myself off to work and if I can get stuck into something as soon as I get there my day goes better. If for some reason I am feeling reluctant to get stuck in, that can stay with me all day. Then when I go home, I feel the same. I want to vegetate in the chair and do nothing.
Like you, even things I like (such as going for a walk) become a really hard thing to do. I'm like it most weekends too.
But I know I am dealing with a lot of difficult stuff. My counsellor tells me I'm not lazy and not to be hard on myself.
Same goes for you too Annie. Please Don't be too hard on yourself. You have so much going on that feeling like this is probably a natural reaction. After all, last week was full of big decisions and maybe you are on a downer after that. Plus you aren't well as you say.
It happens my friend ..... What you need is to be kind to yourself. You are so kind to everyone else here and putting time, energy & effort into helping them with their problems. Even this drains your resources. Here are some of my army of friendly smilies all of whom would like to come and help make u feel better.......
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Thank you Tessar and friends :) You always know the right things to say to make someone smile I am pleased I am not the only one feeling like this even if I don't want you to feel like this. I just think sometimes I need a :buttkick::buttkick::buttkick::buttkick::buttkick: :buttkick:
Iced_diamond
24-02-13, 18:44
Hi Annie, it's certainly not just you. :) I often feel this way too. Sometimes the motivation completely leaves us and it's hard to do anything. The weather and the colds don't help either, but do you know what? Sometimes, you just have to say: Right, I'm going to get up and do this now and I am going to do it for nobody other than myself. :) Then, after you've done it, you'll feel happy and proud. If you usually enjoy baking, then this would be an ideal thing to do when it's cold outside, so I would just get stuck in. Another good thing is to get a crossword puzzle book or possibly something like a card making set or something as this can be quite distracting from other things. The key is to find something you enjoy and do it-even if maybe sometimes you feel you don't want to. Once you get stuck in, you'll be happy you started. :) I hope you're already feeling better Annie. You've always given really kind and helpful advice and support to others on this forum, so you deserve to be happy as well. :) take care and sending you :bighug1:
Hi Annie, it's certainly not just you. :) I often feel this way too. Sometimes the motivation completely leaves us and it's hard to do anything. The weather and the colds don't help either, but do you know what? Sometimes, you just have to say: Right, I'm going to get up and do this now and I am going to do it for nobody other than myself. :) Then, after you've done it, you'll feel happy and proud. If you usually enjoy baking, then this would be an ideal thing to do when it's cold outside, so I would just get stuck in. Another good thing is to get a crossword puzzle book or possibly something like a card making set or something as this can be quite distracting from other things. The key is to find something you enjoy and do it-even if maybe sometimes you feel you don't want to. Once you get stuck in, you'll be happy you started. :) I hope you're already feeling better Annie. You've always given really kind and helpful advice and support to others on this forum, so you deserve to be happy as well. :) take care and sending you :bighug1:
I have started making soaps and bath fizzers to try to get me motivated and I have to say I am pleased with the results. I have some more ingredients to make bath fizzers but keep putting it off until tomorrow (and then tomorrow again). Ok I will make the decision now and get them made this week and report back to say how I have done :)
Louise_B85
03-03-13, 20:42
I can really relate to this. I find the smallest tasks feel like massive efforts, just making a cup of tea or some food is too much. Im managing to go to work and if I am meeting friends then I try my hardest to motivate myself to going. It is when I am home on my own (I live alone) that I find I have little motivation. Today I planned to tidy my house, go shopping, have some pamper time, yet here I am still sat in bed having done nothing all day, annoyed at myself for another wasted day. I have made a list of the plans I want to do next week in the hope this will motivate me, I am desperate to try and change my life around for the better! fingers crossed.
Louise, I think maybe it is a good idea to set ourselves little goals each day and make sure we do them. Even if it is just one thing. I am even worse at the moment as I also have tonsillitis now :(
Yes little goals... Bit by bit then u can wave goodbye to lethargy
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Yes little goals... Bit by bit then u can wave goodbye to lethargy
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maximus1975
03-03-13, 22:06
annie hun when i went to my stress buster course we talked a lot about this , when they went through some examples i new i had depression, even the slightest thing seems like such a mission , reading the post , cooking tea , changing your bedding its all hassle that you cant be bothered with , i could quite happyly stay on here all day long ive lost interest in a lot of things , the local paper, nice meals ,ps3, some tv programes , shoping , phoning my friends its an ill ness i force myself to walk each day if i can for fitness to keep my cholestrol down i dont even want to go most days.
i was a lot more motivated before that job offer on thursday that set me right back my family wonder why i cant just put it out my mind that the jobs not suited to me but thats the nature of the beast, you've gone through some changes this week its probally causing underlying anxiety
You are right Maximus and I think this tonsillitis virus has been hanging about for a while which hasn't helped. I can understand how the job offer would have made you feel worse as I would have been affected in the same way. Hopefully now you have made the decision you will pick up again.
Louise_B85
03-03-13, 22:12
Thanks Annie and Tessar, think your right little goals needed. Im off work this week so my usual routine will be thrown out of the window, but i will really try to motivate myself so that i dont sit at home alone just thinking about things x
maximus1975
03-03-13, 22:39
this is the tricky thing about not working its a no win situation you work you can make yourself ill and have to have time of and employers dont understand anxiety/ panic.
or you dont work and you end up sitting at home with to much time on your hands to think negative thoughts and the longer you dont work the harder it is to go back,
i need to speak to one of my gps who was of with anxiety for 3 months last year as im baffled how you no when the time is right and how he new, im terryfied of working again at the moment but no if i could just get a few weeks under my belt id be fine
Well I have to say I have gone from not feeling motivated to do anything to wanting to do everything yesterday! I have been decorating the house, making cakes, making soaps, making cards, gardening, going to pilates. I have also managed to decrease my dosulepin from 100mg to 50mg :)
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We should rename you .....
"Mrs Motivator"
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