BJA1984
27-03-13, 21:26
I'm Ben, 28 years of age, live with my partner and our 2 year old daughter, with another baby on the way in just 6 weeks time. I suffer with Anxiety/Depression, and it's been a significant problem for the last 2 years, but noticeable for around 6 years.
Lately, the Anxiety is the most problematic. My depression seems to have lifted slowly during the last 2 years, which was my low point.
I don't work, and haven't done for 2 years (I left because the depression/anxiety stopped me doing my job properly). I'm looking for work, but seem to be struggling to find anything (which I'm sure lots of people are given the current economic climate).
The last year has seen my relationship breaking down with my partner of 9 years (although we are still together, I worry it's not going to last). With an amazing 2 year old girl, and a baby boy soon to be here, I'm scared I won't be living with them as they grow up, because my anxiety has contributed to the failure of my relationship with their mum.
I find it so hard to talk to my family (mum, dad and brother), as much as I want to be able to sit down and completely open up. They are aware I've felt bad in the past, but never aware of the severity that it was and has been. They don't seem particular supportive, although I'm sure that's because of their lack of understanding - but then I would of thought they may have researched into it in order to try and understand.
Money is so tight, with me not working. My partner is just about to go on maternity leave as the baby is here in 6 weeks time. It all feels so much.
I used to take anti-depressants a couple years ago, Citalopram initially (didn't get on with them, felt really spaced out and completely detached from everything, even more than I do anyway). Switched to ViePax XL, and felt numb to the bone with those. So I ended up coming off them completely and have coped since.
Thankfully the deep depression of two years ago seems to have lifted somewhat, although there are days I feel particularly bad. Most of my worries are with my anxiety. It stops me applying for jobs, making phone calls, going out and socialising, it's limiting my potential so much.
I've seen counsellors on and off, and for the last 4 months I've been going to counsellor which has really helped in many ways. But it feels like nothing is changing, I still have these negative, undermining thoughts about myself.
Would love to get to know other people who are going through similar situations.
Thanks for reading.
Ben.
Lately, the Anxiety is the most problematic. My depression seems to have lifted slowly during the last 2 years, which was my low point.
I don't work, and haven't done for 2 years (I left because the depression/anxiety stopped me doing my job properly). I'm looking for work, but seem to be struggling to find anything (which I'm sure lots of people are given the current economic climate).
The last year has seen my relationship breaking down with my partner of 9 years (although we are still together, I worry it's not going to last). With an amazing 2 year old girl, and a baby boy soon to be here, I'm scared I won't be living with them as they grow up, because my anxiety has contributed to the failure of my relationship with their mum.
I find it so hard to talk to my family (mum, dad and brother), as much as I want to be able to sit down and completely open up. They are aware I've felt bad in the past, but never aware of the severity that it was and has been. They don't seem particular supportive, although I'm sure that's because of their lack of understanding - but then I would of thought they may have researched into it in order to try and understand.
Money is so tight, with me not working. My partner is just about to go on maternity leave as the baby is here in 6 weeks time. It all feels so much.
I used to take anti-depressants a couple years ago, Citalopram initially (didn't get on with them, felt really spaced out and completely detached from everything, even more than I do anyway). Switched to ViePax XL, and felt numb to the bone with those. So I ended up coming off them completely and have coped since.
Thankfully the deep depression of two years ago seems to have lifted somewhat, although there are days I feel particularly bad. Most of my worries are with my anxiety. It stops me applying for jobs, making phone calls, going out and socialising, it's limiting my potential so much.
I've seen counsellors on and off, and for the last 4 months I've been going to counsellor which has really helped in many ways. But it feels like nothing is changing, I still have these negative, undermining thoughts about myself.
Would love to get to know other people who are going through similar situations.
Thanks for reading.
Ben.