Soon to be happy
13-04-13, 19:12
Hi everyone,
I was just wondering if anyone could help me out/give me some answers or generally reassure me!
I get anxious at many things and they're all getting worse as time goes on - I want to deal with it now before it gets too bad!
The first one, and,in my opinion, the worst one is going out in crowded spaces.
The reason I have joined this site is because recently I went shopping in town with my husband, it's the Easter holidays and town was full of both adults and children. I always get a little bit stressed in town but this time I completely freaked out. Everything was so disorganised, people just stopping right in front of me, children running around. I felt like I couldn't breathe. I was so stressed I had to get out of there. My husband said that I just switched off, one min he was talking to me then I was gone, had seen a space in the crowds and raced off towards it. When we got back to the car he quizzed me about it and until we had talked quite deeply about it I didn't realise it was such a problem - in my head I was getting annoyed - even angry, know i needed to get out of that situation but didn't see how much of a problem it was causing my husband.
My second thing is to do with my friends. I find myself putting them down, in my head, not to their faces, I think it's to make myself feel better. I'd rather not do it, I just can't seem to stop. I'm a very jealous person over my friends, I'm more in control of my jealousy over my husband. A recent example;
My friends from work live around 1 hour away from me, as it's the Easter hols (we work in a school), we've been arranging to meet up. I always go to their houses, as they all live much nearer to each other than I do, and one time I invited them all to mine, which was fine, one of them was going to drive and the other girl was going to get a lift. The morning of the day in question the driving girl asked me if I could go to hers instead, I couldn't as my husband had the car and said no, she then said she couldn't come and I didn't hear from her again for a while. I then started to panic. Thoughts ran through my head that they didn't like me, had arranged not to come between them, basically were conspiring against me, especially when I found out they had gone out together that day.
My husband convinced me to ask her why she couldn't come and she said she couldn't afford the fuel money, which I suppose it's fair enough. But I didn't hear from my other friend about why she couldn't come....
The third thing is money... And could be linked to shopping anxiety and friend anxiety.
I can't bear to spend money. If someone says would I like to do this or that my first response is 'NO'! I can't afford it'. Even though I could work out finances and save a bit here and there to pay for it. My husband really has to encourage me to treat myself every now and again, and we miss out in so much, just because I can't break out of my comfort zone.
Thanks you for taking the time to read this jumbled up post - all my thoughts came out at once! Any help/advice you can give me would be very gratefully appreciated. I need to conquer this before it takes over completely.
Thanks again!
I was just wondering if anyone could help me out/give me some answers or generally reassure me!
I get anxious at many things and they're all getting worse as time goes on - I want to deal with it now before it gets too bad!
The first one, and,in my opinion, the worst one is going out in crowded spaces.
The reason I have joined this site is because recently I went shopping in town with my husband, it's the Easter holidays and town was full of both adults and children. I always get a little bit stressed in town but this time I completely freaked out. Everything was so disorganised, people just stopping right in front of me, children running around. I felt like I couldn't breathe. I was so stressed I had to get out of there. My husband said that I just switched off, one min he was talking to me then I was gone, had seen a space in the crowds and raced off towards it. When we got back to the car he quizzed me about it and until we had talked quite deeply about it I didn't realise it was such a problem - in my head I was getting annoyed - even angry, know i needed to get out of that situation but didn't see how much of a problem it was causing my husband.
My second thing is to do with my friends. I find myself putting them down, in my head, not to their faces, I think it's to make myself feel better. I'd rather not do it, I just can't seem to stop. I'm a very jealous person over my friends, I'm more in control of my jealousy over my husband. A recent example;
My friends from work live around 1 hour away from me, as it's the Easter hols (we work in a school), we've been arranging to meet up. I always go to their houses, as they all live much nearer to each other than I do, and one time I invited them all to mine, which was fine, one of them was going to drive and the other girl was going to get a lift. The morning of the day in question the driving girl asked me if I could go to hers instead, I couldn't as my husband had the car and said no, she then said she couldn't come and I didn't hear from her again for a while. I then started to panic. Thoughts ran through my head that they didn't like me, had arranged not to come between them, basically were conspiring against me, especially when I found out they had gone out together that day.
My husband convinced me to ask her why she couldn't come and she said she couldn't afford the fuel money, which I suppose it's fair enough. But I didn't hear from my other friend about why she couldn't come....
The third thing is money... And could be linked to shopping anxiety and friend anxiety.
I can't bear to spend money. If someone says would I like to do this or that my first response is 'NO'! I can't afford it'. Even though I could work out finances and save a bit here and there to pay for it. My husband really has to encourage me to treat myself every now and again, and we miss out in so much, just because I can't break out of my comfort zone.
Thanks you for taking the time to read this jumbled up post - all my thoughts came out at once! Any help/advice you can give me would be very gratefully appreciated. I need to conquer this before it takes over completely.
Thanks again!