Tink87
18-04-13, 11:49
Hi all,
I am new to this site and would appreciate ANY response as I am desperate for help, clarity.
I have suffered from intrusive thoughts before that literally took over my life and caused huge debilitation. (I suffer from OCD) I couldn't go to work, I couldn't eat, I believed my thoughts, my mind would create crazy thoughts and feelings. I actually suffered HOCD thoughts a couple of years ago which came at random.
I'm in a long term relationship with a man I love (even though we've had our troubles)
I'm trying to keep this as short as I can. Anyway I joined a new job around four months ago. I work quite closely with this guy, and I can remember harmless flirting occassionally and then the odd thought of what it would be like to be with him (he has a fair bit of money and I am ashamed to say I was a bit swayed by it) I don't find him particularly attractive either.
Anyway, I can remember a meeting where we were talking 1:1 and were talking about random stuff and he said something along the lines of ' it depends how you like your men' in a suggestive manner. I vividly remember this making me feel very uncomfortable. Then another time, he made another remark when he was abroad and messaged me saying something like ' it's hard to concentrate with so many swedish blondes around' - again this made me feel weird and uncomfortable.
So last week, I had to go to find him about some work and he said 'oh, i meant to come over and say hi' it may have been suggestive, I don't know. But anyway, I felt this HUGE surge of dread and anxiety come over me as it felt like flirting and I didn't like it.
Ever since I have been plagued with anxiety and uncontrollable thoughts that I do like him. I know deep down I don't want to be with him, as I imagine scenarios like being with him and it creates a huge sense of anxiety and disgust. However my mind keeps finding instances where I've flirted or thought random things about him.
It's gotten so bad that I cannot hear his voice or even see his name on email without it being a trigger to massive anxiety.
Sometimes I can look at him and it'll be nothing, and I'll feel like 'what a silly girl for thinking such things' but then I'll get a thought ' no you do like him' or a feeling of anxiety that my mind tells me actually it was excitement.
I am in utter hell here. I'll be with my Fiance and we'll be having a lovely time then this other guy's face will pop in my head and it causes massive panic where I physically shake my head to get the thought from my mind.
Please can somebody provide some advice!! Is this OCD/ intrusive thoughts or am I having to face the dreadful reality that I actually like this guy??:scared15:
Thank you so much to anybody who replies in advance.
I am new to this site and would appreciate ANY response as I am desperate for help, clarity.
I have suffered from intrusive thoughts before that literally took over my life and caused huge debilitation. (I suffer from OCD) I couldn't go to work, I couldn't eat, I believed my thoughts, my mind would create crazy thoughts and feelings. I actually suffered HOCD thoughts a couple of years ago which came at random.
I'm in a long term relationship with a man I love (even though we've had our troubles)
I'm trying to keep this as short as I can. Anyway I joined a new job around four months ago. I work quite closely with this guy, and I can remember harmless flirting occassionally and then the odd thought of what it would be like to be with him (he has a fair bit of money and I am ashamed to say I was a bit swayed by it) I don't find him particularly attractive either.
Anyway, I can remember a meeting where we were talking 1:1 and were talking about random stuff and he said something along the lines of ' it depends how you like your men' in a suggestive manner. I vividly remember this making me feel very uncomfortable. Then another time, he made another remark when he was abroad and messaged me saying something like ' it's hard to concentrate with so many swedish blondes around' - again this made me feel weird and uncomfortable.
So last week, I had to go to find him about some work and he said 'oh, i meant to come over and say hi' it may have been suggestive, I don't know. But anyway, I felt this HUGE surge of dread and anxiety come over me as it felt like flirting and I didn't like it.
Ever since I have been plagued with anxiety and uncontrollable thoughts that I do like him. I know deep down I don't want to be with him, as I imagine scenarios like being with him and it creates a huge sense of anxiety and disgust. However my mind keeps finding instances where I've flirted or thought random things about him.
It's gotten so bad that I cannot hear his voice or even see his name on email without it being a trigger to massive anxiety.
Sometimes I can look at him and it'll be nothing, and I'll feel like 'what a silly girl for thinking such things' but then I'll get a thought ' no you do like him' or a feeling of anxiety that my mind tells me actually it was excitement.
I am in utter hell here. I'll be with my Fiance and we'll be having a lovely time then this other guy's face will pop in my head and it causes massive panic where I physically shake my head to get the thought from my mind.
Please can somebody provide some advice!! Is this OCD/ intrusive thoughts or am I having to face the dreadful reality that I actually like this guy??:scared15:
Thank you so much to anybody who replies in advance.