Tessar
07-05-13, 20:59
I'm curious to know if anyone else gets this. I 've been like it for as long as I can remember but it's like my mind never shuts up.
Even if I'm busy at work there is spare brain capacity that I find is like a negative tape reel going round & round. The subject swings between derogatory things said to me over the years (self-worth, appearance etc) & fears over the future.
.....if you don't like worrying about the future....please don't read on.....
I do have fears about the future & know one day I will die. i accept that but in the scheme of things it sometimes makes me feel what is the point. I know it is one of the things that keeps me depressed but this irritating babble keeps going in the background.
I do have "quiet times" when my mind finally shuts up... Usually this is if i am very busy & I know that I would advise other people feeling like this to use distraction. I know also that I need to bring this to a head in relation to the future as I have felt this way for a couple of years.
I know some of the thoughts are down to my past, being tormented & bullied and I am working on my self-belief (it is getting much better).
The concerns I have over the future were triggered when a couple of my oldest friends died a couple of years ago. One of them was like a second dad to me & he was one of the nicest people I have met in my life. This caused a huge shift in where I saw myself in the course of life & is a problem I know I need to deal with as it eats away at my enthusiasm for life. I have looked for meaning in life, such as why we are here & so on. I have settled on being satisfied that I can be a good person & make a difference to others. At the same time I can have fun too with other people & we can exist happily together. People are the most valued things in my life. Friends, (nice) family, valued colleagues.
I'm sure I am not alone in having unhelpful chatter going on in the back of my mind all the time. I feel this must be something i can improve on as I am becoming successful with self-esteem stuff. But the concerns I have over the future keep coming round.
For instance, I took a nice walk in the sun at lunchtime, along fields next to where I work. Instead of enjoying the beautiful surroundings (& I did try to... I was listening to the birds, looking at pretty flowers) but my mind kept thinking it's all rather pointless really because of my fears over the future.
I have realised I am already thinking these things before I even go out for a walk. So I suppose am setting myself up to think about it - rather than just go for a walk with an empty mind & just enjoy my surroundings.
It used to be something I enjoyed a lot but since my (abusive, unkind) brother died last year, my enthusiasm for walking has gone, along with enjoying things like cycling. Mainly because my mind got filled with messy stuff from the past. i have dealt with most of it now & I do know I need to push myself & I am beginning to do these things again. I can enjoy them again, surely.
I am seeing a counsellor & will bring this fear of the future thing up with her next week. I know I need to as I have been dealing with lots of other things first and now this is one of the last ones to tackle (but perhaps one of the biggest). Sorting this one out feels like it is key to enjoying the rest of my life.
Sorry this is a depressing post, I have wanted to mention this for a while but was worried i might plant the same fears in someone else's mind & i hate the idea of that, although I am sure I am not the only one who feels like this. Thanks for reading....
Even if I'm busy at work there is spare brain capacity that I find is like a negative tape reel going round & round. The subject swings between derogatory things said to me over the years (self-worth, appearance etc) & fears over the future.
.....if you don't like worrying about the future....please don't read on.....
I do have fears about the future & know one day I will die. i accept that but in the scheme of things it sometimes makes me feel what is the point. I know it is one of the things that keeps me depressed but this irritating babble keeps going in the background.
I do have "quiet times" when my mind finally shuts up... Usually this is if i am very busy & I know that I would advise other people feeling like this to use distraction. I know also that I need to bring this to a head in relation to the future as I have felt this way for a couple of years.
I know some of the thoughts are down to my past, being tormented & bullied and I am working on my self-belief (it is getting much better).
The concerns I have over the future were triggered when a couple of my oldest friends died a couple of years ago. One of them was like a second dad to me & he was one of the nicest people I have met in my life. This caused a huge shift in where I saw myself in the course of life & is a problem I know I need to deal with as it eats away at my enthusiasm for life. I have looked for meaning in life, such as why we are here & so on. I have settled on being satisfied that I can be a good person & make a difference to others. At the same time I can have fun too with other people & we can exist happily together. People are the most valued things in my life. Friends, (nice) family, valued colleagues.
I'm sure I am not alone in having unhelpful chatter going on in the back of my mind all the time. I feel this must be something i can improve on as I am becoming successful with self-esteem stuff. But the concerns I have over the future keep coming round.
For instance, I took a nice walk in the sun at lunchtime, along fields next to where I work. Instead of enjoying the beautiful surroundings (& I did try to... I was listening to the birds, looking at pretty flowers) but my mind kept thinking it's all rather pointless really because of my fears over the future.
I have realised I am already thinking these things before I even go out for a walk. So I suppose am setting myself up to think about it - rather than just go for a walk with an empty mind & just enjoy my surroundings.
It used to be something I enjoyed a lot but since my (abusive, unkind) brother died last year, my enthusiasm for walking has gone, along with enjoying things like cycling. Mainly because my mind got filled with messy stuff from the past. i have dealt with most of it now & I do know I need to push myself & I am beginning to do these things again. I can enjoy them again, surely.
I am seeing a counsellor & will bring this fear of the future thing up with her next week. I know I need to as I have been dealing with lots of other things first and now this is one of the last ones to tackle (but perhaps one of the biggest). Sorting this one out feels like it is key to enjoying the rest of my life.
Sorry this is a depressing post, I have wanted to mention this for a while but was worried i might plant the same fears in someone else's mind & i hate the idea of that, although I am sure I am not the only one who feels like this. Thanks for reading....