If you do have a serious illness should you still post on here?

[Uncertain27]

Or not mention it because of frightening other posters. Just wondering because I'm pretty sure I do, and I like this site. :blush:

[AllIhaveisme]

But aren't we all "pretty sure" we do? :)

[sparkle_1979]

I know if someone comes on and tells us they've been diagnosed it sends my health anxiety in overdrive xx

[Annie0904]

I think if our friends on NMP are diagnosed with something then we should be supporting them. If some members think it will be a trigger they don't have to read it.

[anxietyoverload]

I agree with Annie, I think if people need our help and support they should feel free to post here. If I happened to be diagnosed I would need this site for support I would imagine! xx

[Spot-the-frog]

I agree with Annie too, occasionally I choose not to read a post if i think it will trigger something and I am sure there are loads of us out there who do that.

I would like to think that we can talk about anything and will get support and not be judged.

[Tessar]

I agree with annie too..... we cant ever turn our backs on someone if they get diagnosed, they are our friends & we are here to support people & that's how we all become friends.

[Bekzie]

I wouldn't mind you posting here at all. Maybe if you write in the thread title "maybe a trigger" then people who don't want to read it won't have to.

[nomorepanic]

What do you think you have got uncertain?

[sparkle_1979]

Just my opinion but this site has many forums and maybe general anxiety would be better to stop from triggering others. Just my opinion and I doubt it's a rule. I just know hen I read in a magazine or about anyone's actual illness it starts me off xx sorry of this offends but like someone said if it is in the title we can also avoid xx

[AllIhaveisme]

Just reading here about symptoms that people do/don't have sets me off. For diseases I never thought I had before. So I don't much see the difference. I think a good portion of us wont ever get a diagnosis anyhow.

[Mipsy]

I was thinking along the lines of someone posting for for the first time for example "i thought i just had a swollen neck gland and its turned out to be lymphoma". It could be a trigger for someone who is already on the edge and make them worse. Could be a serious matter for some.
However, I do wholeheartedly agree with the previous poster who said it can be made clear in the title and members can choose to read or not. Sorry if i didnt make myself clear and sounded short in my last post. I didnt mean to be. The written word can sometimes come across in a way not intended (note to myself as a new member getting to know etiquette).
Im sure if i found myself with a serious illness, I'd be grateful for the support of this forum. There are lots of lovely people who will help by replying. Hope you're ok.
X

Edit: deleted my last post and added this one x

[emeraldgirl]

I agree with most of the others that if we do get diagnosed with something it should not be a barrier to posting about it. We would need the support even more at this point.

[almamatters]

I agree that we should be able to post if we are diagnosed with an illness. NMP is a lifeline to many people and not being able to share would be awful. I agree that maybe a heading at the top of the thread warning people would help, then you have a choice whether you continue to read or not.

[Lilharry]

When I was certain that I had bowel cancer last week, I stopped posting because I didn't want to freak anyone out. If I had been diagnosed with it I was planning to join a bowel cancer forum. Learning of other people's diagnoses is a trigger for me, so while I would 100 percent want to support someone who had been diagnosed it would probably set me off. I'm not saying that they shouldn't post here, just that it is a trigger for many. It's a tough one and if this is their lifeline then it would be awful not to support. Definitely depends on the circumstances and why they're here.

[Uncertain27]

What do you think you have got uncertain?
I am freaking out that I have lymphoma, but I made this a general thread because I thought it might apply to others as well. :blush:

[xBettyBoopx]

You should support each other regardless of what's wrong with you! You can't pick what you want to help with and what you don't....that's not being a friend....that's leaving when the going gets tough!

Els

[Mogwog]

I agree with Annie that if someone does get diagnosed then they should be able to post here and get our support. People just don't have to read it if its a trigger :)
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[almamatters]

You should support each other regardless of what's wrong with you! You can't pick what you want to help with and what you don't....that's not being a friend....that's leaving when the going gets tough!

Els


Totally agree, really well put . :)

[Mipsy]

Uncertain, hope your appt went well. I've posted on your other post on the board.
Hope you get the support you need x

[eastofeden]

Yeah I think if they write 'trigger warning' or 'dx' before the post then it's absolutely fine. I don't think that someone should be shunned if they do find out they have a legitimate illness, I think that would be quite unfair. Because inevitably more anxiety will follow that diagnosis, and they will probably need more support, so I think the community should be supportive. They should also be sensitive to the minds of everyone in this community though. I think a lot of us are worried about certain specific things. For instance, I'm terrified of blood clots and vascular disease. I am not however, particularly afraid right now of things that other people are terribly scared of, for example, HIV. And vice versa. They may not share my fears. So I know what is appropriate and what isn't.
So if someone mentions diagnosis of clots, I know to avoid that post, and if someone needs support or someone to talk to about something else, I can calmly be there for them. If someone can't handle someone else's diagnosis, then they don't have to read or click on their posts. Simple :)