Sunset-mind
06-06-13, 16:45
hi,
im a young male in my mid 20's and im struggling with anxiety at moment. really quite badly......had it fir years and it comes in episodes, but when it comes it really comes and normally lasts 2 weeks-3months. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and she is really great with me. She has always been their for me when anxious, never makes me do anything I don't feel comfortable with, always helps and re-assures. She really is great.
My problem is at the moment is I don't seem to be finding her sexually attractive, this hasn't just been the case when ive been feeling anxious, its been before. Im worried because I feel like some of my down/anxiety/ low feeling is because their is no more excitement. which is probably more my fault then hers due to this anxiety. But Its not like my sex drive is down at all......it just seems like I would rather not do it, its not bad, but its all the same.
We live with eachother, share bills, car, money etc etc so its not like I can just get up and go.......and with my current state of anxiety this is not a possibility anyway, seen as I have de-realization, feel down etc etc. I know people will say I obviously don't love her, but I truly do, but just miss the days of excitement and stuff ;) .lol. If I tell her how I feel, she will get SOOOOOO upset, if I don't im kinda worried ill slip up. Not cheat on her, but maybe flirt with other female collegues etc etc. Am I just being a proper meanie?
if I leave her it ill cuse so much problems and 10x more anxiety which is already very very very bad. But if I keep with her im always wondering ........
she is really great, I cant express this enough, but I just seem to have a high sex drive but getting bored of the same stuff. I really don't know if this is the right place to post thism or appropriate but its making me anxious as I don't want to make things worse as I don't know if I could cope......
any help?
im a young male in my mid 20's and im struggling with anxiety at moment. really quite badly......had it fir years and it comes in episodes, but when it comes it really comes and normally lasts 2 weeks-3months. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and she is really great with me. She has always been their for me when anxious, never makes me do anything I don't feel comfortable with, always helps and re-assures. She really is great.
My problem is at the moment is I don't seem to be finding her sexually attractive, this hasn't just been the case when ive been feeling anxious, its been before. Im worried because I feel like some of my down/anxiety/ low feeling is because their is no more excitement. which is probably more my fault then hers due to this anxiety. But Its not like my sex drive is down at all......it just seems like I would rather not do it, its not bad, but its all the same.
We live with eachother, share bills, car, money etc etc so its not like I can just get up and go.......and with my current state of anxiety this is not a possibility anyway, seen as I have de-realization, feel down etc etc. I know people will say I obviously don't love her, but I truly do, but just miss the days of excitement and stuff ;) .lol. If I tell her how I feel, she will get SOOOOOO upset, if I don't im kinda worried ill slip up. Not cheat on her, but maybe flirt with other female collegues etc etc. Am I just being a proper meanie?
if I leave her it ill cuse so much problems and 10x more anxiety which is already very very very bad. But if I keep with her im always wondering ........
she is really great, I cant express this enough, but I just seem to have a high sex drive but getting bored of the same stuff. I really don't know if this is the right place to post thism or appropriate but its making me anxious as I don't want to make things worse as I don't know if I could cope......
any help?