bagpuss75
15-06-13, 20:12
Hi
glad to have found this place.
I've suffered from anxiety since I was a little girl. Then it was a fear of doing things and saying things, because I didn't ever want to be wrong. I used to get so anxious and scared that I would have the most terrible tummy cramps and aches.
I managed to get over the shyness, and I an now well into my 30s, am a teacher and perform on stage with my dance group and my band, and really enjoy it.
My anxiety has manifested itself in another way. I now have persistent negative thoughts pretty much on cue a week before my period is due (sorry if tmi). This is emotionally crippling and physically debilitating. I can't switch the thoughts off. They ALWAYS revolve around a 'what if' situation, of something I can't control, and I imagine the very worst scenarios. I can rationalise, talk it through, write it down, and it just won't go away.
Now this doesn't affect my life in that I am able to get through every day, work, my usual activities, by putting a 'mask' on, but my enjoyment of life is zero, and I'm very stressed. I wouldn't say suicidal, but I am struggling to actually want to live like this any more.
It's ridiculous as I am good at my job, have oodles of friends, a fab family and lots of hobbies. I am however, still single and childless and desperately want my own family, although I feel it may be too late. I have had some therapy, and we identified a massive 'failure' button due to my upbringing and a damaging relationship which lasted 10 years.
Sorry, that was a bit of a life story! That's my background anyway. I hope to chat with people who actually understand what it's like and to find out things that can help. Thanks for reading.
glad to have found this place.
I've suffered from anxiety since I was a little girl. Then it was a fear of doing things and saying things, because I didn't ever want to be wrong. I used to get so anxious and scared that I would have the most terrible tummy cramps and aches.
I managed to get over the shyness, and I an now well into my 30s, am a teacher and perform on stage with my dance group and my band, and really enjoy it.
My anxiety has manifested itself in another way. I now have persistent negative thoughts pretty much on cue a week before my period is due (sorry if tmi). This is emotionally crippling and physically debilitating. I can't switch the thoughts off. They ALWAYS revolve around a 'what if' situation, of something I can't control, and I imagine the very worst scenarios. I can rationalise, talk it through, write it down, and it just won't go away.
Now this doesn't affect my life in that I am able to get through every day, work, my usual activities, by putting a 'mask' on, but my enjoyment of life is zero, and I'm very stressed. I wouldn't say suicidal, but I am struggling to actually want to live like this any more.
It's ridiculous as I am good at my job, have oodles of friends, a fab family and lots of hobbies. I am however, still single and childless and desperately want my own family, although I feel it may be too late. I have had some therapy, and we identified a massive 'failure' button due to my upbringing and a damaging relationship which lasted 10 years.
Sorry, that was a bit of a life story! That's my background anyway. I hope to chat with people who actually understand what it's like and to find out things that can help. Thanks for reading.