KeeKee
13-07-13, 21:29
I have been suffering with depression and probably social anxiety for a very long time now. I started having panic attacks in March this year which has lead me to have health anxiety.
I have a 6 year old and my relationship with her is becoming increasingly difficult. She is obviously growing up and with growing behavioural issues do arise.
Today I was asked if I could give her some money for sweets at the shop, however she hadn't ate her dinner so I said no. She is the fussiest eater I have ever known, never eats her dinner, only fully eats her tea if it is pasty/pizza or Ham & Cheese. I was given a dirty look by this individual and I know the 3 relatives who were there will have been griefing me behind my back. This infuriated and deeply upset me. There are some parents who under no circumstances allow their children to have sugar - that is their choice!!
Later on my daughter was playing outside, I was still feeling the aftermath of being challenged earlier, something which is happening more and more. She asked me to play and I did not want to, we were around relatives I am not close to and therefore feel uncomfortable. I was told I am a spoilsport and boring. My pet hate is being told I am boring. I am not boring, I simply have different hobbies/interests than most people (for example most people prefer the Big Bang Theory, Id rather watch Frasier, most people prefer dance music, I prefer the likes of Linkin Park or Eminem - strange combo I know!)
I then told her not to wipe her face on her clean blazer, but 'shes a kid, it can easily be washed, you did it when you were little!'
Well I also started drinking at 15 and got pregnant and 17, does that mean it is ok for her to do this?
This is not the first time this has happened, I get a dirty look when I tell her to eat with her mouth closed, not speak when others are speaking and not to pester people when they are eating.
I am beyond struggling and feel I have no choice but to shut them all out of my life if this continues. I have put up with this for years, we used to get wrong for letting her cry as a baby even though we were advised to as this prevents them from being 'spoilt', I put the nappies on the wrong way and so on. I am fed up and am stuck in a dead end. This is dramatically affecting my relationship with my daughter.
I am not saying they are ill-meaning, but they say it such an intimidating and often negative way.
Recently, when my health anxiety was at its worst I was inn floods of tears on more than one occasion, this is the only time my family ever showed sympathy. I admit I have a problem and have sought help, what more can I possibly do?
I also have a phobia of dying my hair and have had to explain that a few times to be glanced upon with confusion! I also cannot go to shops without another adult (unless it is a busy town-centre) but have still been asked only to be made to feel awkward when I refuse.
I cannot take this anymore, I get on fine with people, but when my daughter is there is just feels weird. I feel like I cant say anything. The other day I got her out of a relatives car and when I opened the door she was leaning against it and had to pull herself up! I told her not to do that again and my relative laughed and made a joke of it.
I find my self fantasising more & more about moving away - alone. My partner god bless him doesn't judge me so much as 10% as much as everybody else but even he is getting sick. I am so low all the time and I feel like I am ruining my life.
I fear I will soon become emotionless and I have always valued my caring for others. This is the only good thing about me. I speak to people with respect (although I have occasionally spoken to someone like crap, this is only when I am very down and can honestly say that is not who I really am).
If anybody has taken the time to read this, thanks so much. I am sorry if this sounds like I am whining. I don't know what else to do.
---------- Post added at 21:29 ---------- Previous post was at 20:46 ----------
Anyone?
I have a 6 year old and my relationship with her is becoming increasingly difficult. She is obviously growing up and with growing behavioural issues do arise.
Today I was asked if I could give her some money for sweets at the shop, however she hadn't ate her dinner so I said no. She is the fussiest eater I have ever known, never eats her dinner, only fully eats her tea if it is pasty/pizza or Ham & Cheese. I was given a dirty look by this individual and I know the 3 relatives who were there will have been griefing me behind my back. This infuriated and deeply upset me. There are some parents who under no circumstances allow their children to have sugar - that is their choice!!
Later on my daughter was playing outside, I was still feeling the aftermath of being challenged earlier, something which is happening more and more. She asked me to play and I did not want to, we were around relatives I am not close to and therefore feel uncomfortable. I was told I am a spoilsport and boring. My pet hate is being told I am boring. I am not boring, I simply have different hobbies/interests than most people (for example most people prefer the Big Bang Theory, Id rather watch Frasier, most people prefer dance music, I prefer the likes of Linkin Park or Eminem - strange combo I know!)
I then told her not to wipe her face on her clean blazer, but 'shes a kid, it can easily be washed, you did it when you were little!'
Well I also started drinking at 15 and got pregnant and 17, does that mean it is ok for her to do this?
This is not the first time this has happened, I get a dirty look when I tell her to eat with her mouth closed, not speak when others are speaking and not to pester people when they are eating.
I am beyond struggling and feel I have no choice but to shut them all out of my life if this continues. I have put up with this for years, we used to get wrong for letting her cry as a baby even though we were advised to as this prevents them from being 'spoilt', I put the nappies on the wrong way and so on. I am fed up and am stuck in a dead end. This is dramatically affecting my relationship with my daughter.
I am not saying they are ill-meaning, but they say it such an intimidating and often negative way.
Recently, when my health anxiety was at its worst I was inn floods of tears on more than one occasion, this is the only time my family ever showed sympathy. I admit I have a problem and have sought help, what more can I possibly do?
I also have a phobia of dying my hair and have had to explain that a few times to be glanced upon with confusion! I also cannot go to shops without another adult (unless it is a busy town-centre) but have still been asked only to be made to feel awkward when I refuse.
I cannot take this anymore, I get on fine with people, but when my daughter is there is just feels weird. I feel like I cant say anything. The other day I got her out of a relatives car and when I opened the door she was leaning against it and had to pull herself up! I told her not to do that again and my relative laughed and made a joke of it.
I find my self fantasising more & more about moving away - alone. My partner god bless him doesn't judge me so much as 10% as much as everybody else but even he is getting sick. I am so low all the time and I feel like I am ruining my life.
I fear I will soon become emotionless and I have always valued my caring for others. This is the only good thing about me. I speak to people with respect (although I have occasionally spoken to someone like crap, this is only when I am very down and can honestly say that is not who I really am).
If anybody has taken the time to read this, thanks so much. I am sorry if this sounds like I am whining. I don't know what else to do.
---------- Post added at 21:29 ---------- Previous post was at 20:46 ----------
Anyone?