shotokansho
30-07-13, 02:45
Hey everyone.
Do any of you single mummies (or daddies) ever feel this way? Sometimes I just think that my life has been for everyone else, like all I ever do is for other people and nothing is ever for me. My eldest boy is 16 now and has left school, while he is waiting for college in September he just lazes about the house eating everything he see's and leaving me a load of mess to clean up after him. My youngest boy is 9 and he is very hyper, a good boy but very hard work. I have brought them both up alone, without any help from partners, in fact I have been virtually single the whole time, apart from the odd fling.
Now don't get me wrong both my sons are well balanced, kind, thoughtful and good decent kids but now I want something for me. I've really struggled being a single mum as well as dealing with my mental health issues, but I know I have done a good job so far.
I started a little job 7 months ago, with the help of a company that helps people with mental health problems get back into work. I was over the moon and at first enjoyed it, but now I am having second thoughts. At home all I do is cook, clean, wash ect, then I go to work and all I do is wash dishes. Work is supposed to be giving me something else to focus on, to get my mind going and to stimulate me, but all it does is make me depressed because I am just put in a corner in front of a large sink and wash big tins for 3 hours. Then I go home and clean the house, collect little legs from school, make tea ect ect. I'm getting bored and tired and very frustrated.
I'm not saying I want a relationship, but it would be nice to just be able to have that bit of company with someone I like, to snuggle with or have a few hours out with every now and again. I have a good circle of friends but they are mainly drinking buddies at weekends, and since I have stopped drinking I barely see them. Any other friends have families and partners of their own.
My passion was Karate. I used to train 3 nights a week, but since starting on a medication I have put on nearly 4 stone and so now I have lost loads of confidence, plus my gear doesn't fit me anymore so I stopped going. I miss it greatly but I can't bring myself to go.
I mean what do single mums and dads do? Where do they go and how do they get their fulfilment for themselves, I feel like I am in a bit of a rut. Are there single parent clubs or anything out there? I suppose there is somewhere. What do you guys do? Sorry for the moan, I just don't feel like I am worth much at the moment.:unsure:
Kez xx
Do any of you single mummies (or daddies) ever feel this way? Sometimes I just think that my life has been for everyone else, like all I ever do is for other people and nothing is ever for me. My eldest boy is 16 now and has left school, while he is waiting for college in September he just lazes about the house eating everything he see's and leaving me a load of mess to clean up after him. My youngest boy is 9 and he is very hyper, a good boy but very hard work. I have brought them both up alone, without any help from partners, in fact I have been virtually single the whole time, apart from the odd fling.
Now don't get me wrong both my sons are well balanced, kind, thoughtful and good decent kids but now I want something for me. I've really struggled being a single mum as well as dealing with my mental health issues, but I know I have done a good job so far.
I started a little job 7 months ago, with the help of a company that helps people with mental health problems get back into work. I was over the moon and at first enjoyed it, but now I am having second thoughts. At home all I do is cook, clean, wash ect, then I go to work and all I do is wash dishes. Work is supposed to be giving me something else to focus on, to get my mind going and to stimulate me, but all it does is make me depressed because I am just put in a corner in front of a large sink and wash big tins for 3 hours. Then I go home and clean the house, collect little legs from school, make tea ect ect. I'm getting bored and tired and very frustrated.
I'm not saying I want a relationship, but it would be nice to just be able to have that bit of company with someone I like, to snuggle with or have a few hours out with every now and again. I have a good circle of friends but they are mainly drinking buddies at weekends, and since I have stopped drinking I barely see them. Any other friends have families and partners of their own.
My passion was Karate. I used to train 3 nights a week, but since starting on a medication I have put on nearly 4 stone and so now I have lost loads of confidence, plus my gear doesn't fit me anymore so I stopped going. I miss it greatly but I can't bring myself to go.
I mean what do single mums and dads do? Where do they go and how do they get their fulfilment for themselves, I feel like I am in a bit of a rut. Are there single parent clubs or anything out there? I suppose there is somewhere. What do you guys do? Sorry for the moan, I just don't feel like I am worth much at the moment.:unsure:
Kez xx