meche
31-07-13, 13:50
Why can't people accept that! On my road to recovery I've learned alot about myself and the reasons I am the way I am. I have in the past put on a front and did things for the sake of doing them and to keep people happy regardless of how it made me feel. Over the past few months I've dropped the front & pretence I sometimes put on and become me again. It has been noted that these days I seem more confident and comfortable in my own skin :yahoo:. Result!
So what's the problem? Some people (friends/colleagues) still think it's acceptable to push and push for me to do things. For example, a few of my girlfriends were organising a long weekend in Spain. Sounds fab but at the time it didn't grab me. It was nothing to do with anxiety or panic - I just wasn't up for it - simple! At first I looked for reasons/excuses to get out of it but in the end I thought 'No - I shouldn't have to'! It went down like a lead balloon. In the end it was cancelled because they couldn't get numbers and the atmosphere was frosty for a while.
It was the same with work. A bowling night was organised and again it didn't grab me but there were whispered tones as to why I wasn't going. Believe it or not I am a very social person but sometimes, just sometimes I don't want to be social. Is that so hard to understand? Am I being selfish? Why do people have a problem with this? It's nothing personal and there isn't anything wrong. So when I say 'No', I mean it. Don't push or try and talk me round, just accept it and get over it! Phew - sorry rant over! xx
So what's the problem? Some people (friends/colleagues) still think it's acceptable to push and push for me to do things. For example, a few of my girlfriends were organising a long weekend in Spain. Sounds fab but at the time it didn't grab me. It was nothing to do with anxiety or panic - I just wasn't up for it - simple! At first I looked for reasons/excuses to get out of it but in the end I thought 'No - I shouldn't have to'! It went down like a lead balloon. In the end it was cancelled because they couldn't get numbers and the atmosphere was frosty for a while.
It was the same with work. A bowling night was organised and again it didn't grab me but there were whispered tones as to why I wasn't going. Believe it or not I am a very social person but sometimes, just sometimes I don't want to be social. Is that so hard to understand? Am I being selfish? Why do people have a problem with this? It's nothing personal and there isn't anything wrong. So when I say 'No', I mean it. Don't push or try and talk me round, just accept it and get over it! Phew - sorry rant over! xx