Tessie28
11-08-13, 11:13
Hi everyone,
I was doing really well, just mornings were the thing. However, something happened on Friday and finding it hard to cope with thoughts.
I came back home to find my neighbour [only 40, has cancer, Mum to 4 under 17s] collapsed outside. My husband was phoning the ambulance, her husband was on the floor looking after her. 3 kids were also there. I tried to help her - she couldn't breathe and her lips were blue but wasn't in pain as such. When the first paramedic arrived I took the kids to our house so they couldn't see what was happening. By then we were all in a state of shock. I rang 999 again as the paramedic was needing back up and it hadn't come yet.
Her dear husband was doing the chest comprehsions [sp] , mine was working the mask and the paramedic was doing everything she could. But I could feel the life draining out of her. The defib was present but it said "do not use paddles" so they didn't. I think this has something to do with the wrong heart rhythem[sp].
Anyway the 2nd ambulance came and they took Michelle and Phil away while we looked after the children and rang her Mum. When the first paramedic came back for her car I went to see her to thank her - she was very upset it was clear that Michelle was dead.
Anyway I held on to that information until Phil got back from the hospital to confirm what had happened but tried at the same time to prepare her Mum for the worst.
Well that is my story - you couldn't have made it up really. Of course I am upset for the family, grieving some as well but selfishly I'm having real problems with thoughts - like it confirms what you know - people die. That then escalates my worries [I know selfish again].
Anyone got any words of wisdom out there? I'm usually full of them myself :blush: Teresa
I was doing really well, just mornings were the thing. However, something happened on Friday and finding it hard to cope with thoughts.
I came back home to find my neighbour [only 40, has cancer, Mum to 4 under 17s] collapsed outside. My husband was phoning the ambulance, her husband was on the floor looking after her. 3 kids were also there. I tried to help her - she couldn't breathe and her lips were blue but wasn't in pain as such. When the first paramedic arrived I took the kids to our house so they couldn't see what was happening. By then we were all in a state of shock. I rang 999 again as the paramedic was needing back up and it hadn't come yet.
Her dear husband was doing the chest comprehsions [sp] , mine was working the mask and the paramedic was doing everything she could. But I could feel the life draining out of her. The defib was present but it said "do not use paddles" so they didn't. I think this has something to do with the wrong heart rhythem[sp].
Anyway the 2nd ambulance came and they took Michelle and Phil away while we looked after the children and rang her Mum. When the first paramedic came back for her car I went to see her to thank her - she was very upset it was clear that Michelle was dead.
Anyway I held on to that information until Phil got back from the hospital to confirm what had happened but tried at the same time to prepare her Mum for the worst.
Well that is my story - you couldn't have made it up really. Of course I am upset for the family, grieving some as well but selfishly I'm having real problems with thoughts - like it confirms what you know - people die. That then escalates my worries [I know selfish again].
Anyone got any words of wisdom out there? I'm usually full of them myself :blush: Teresa