Another newbie

[Jon78]

Hi all,

I'm a 35 yo guy suffering from anxiety... and finding it difficult to write this message. On the outside everything appears to be good, I'm married (to a now suffering wife), decent job, nice house etc. On the inside I feel like a total mess.

I was diagnosed with anxiety in January and read the very good book Overcoming anxiety. I thought that I had overcome the problem, but it has re-surfaced twice in the last couple of months. I have requested an appointment for therapy and am back off to the docs on monday. I thought I'd give this site a try and chat with like minded people.

At times I feel completely worthless, other times frustrated at the thoughts in my head, but mainly that people are constantly judging me. I get obsessed with the smallest issues, and overthink most situations to the worst possible outcome. As a consequence I've become convinced that my wife doesn't want to be with me and avoid all socialisation at work. I just wish I could isolate the cause ... sure I'm not alone there.

Looking forward to some chatting

[Annie0904]

Hi Jon :welcome: I am sure you will find plenty of support here.

[Jon78]

Thanks Annie - I hope I can help others too.

[Pipkin]

A big warm :welcome: to NMP!

You've come to the right place for some support from like-minded people who really understand. Have a read through some of the others' intro threads and you'll see you're far from alone. It sometimes helps if our partners have a look at the site too so they can get a bit of insight into the different anxiety disorders and what people's experiences are.

Take care

Pip

[Mark13]

Hi. Welcome aboard. You've certainly found a good place to be.

I'm sure you'll find lots of support here, as I have.

[cokesmyth5]

I'm another new person. Good on you for writing such a long message. I know men find it much harder than women to bare their souls. I've been down the anxiety road far too many times (fine for years on end in between). I found the articles on this site re anxiety, first steps, coping, really good at helping to take some of the power away from the anxiety. Hope they were useful for you.

[Jon78]

Thanks all. I am off to the docs tomorrow and have made contact for cbt. Will keep you updated. This seems like a great community!b

[missfletcher]

I'm only young but can relate to some of the things you've said I also have a nice home nice family nice friends, and I feel a wreck. I completely obsess about small tiny issues, I loose sleep over them. Its stupid I know but it affects my every day life, how I am socially with people and I cant cope in any bad situations id just have a panic attack or breakdown. I haven't been to the doctors or talked to anyone about my suspicions of anxiety , hope you can help

[phoenix29]

Well you are doing the right thing by talking about it and announcing how you are feeling. When we bottle it all up inside it manifests and gets worse. I have been struggling for years with panic,anxiety and the big "D" so I am here if I I can help you with your struggles cause I am prolly struggling as well. Take care.....ttyl.