NE21 worrier
20-08-13, 22:56
Hello everyone,
Apologies for not posting more often and sorry this is a long one. Perhaps I should have still been posting as I have still lurked as a reader on this site as my situation has remained quite regular at the moment in that my anxiety levels are about the same.
Of course, that in itself is not a bad thing as life is thankfully tolerable at the moment - I am working full-time and have had active social life, and I am aware thanks to the Anxiety Goddess that is Claire Weekes on how to avoid panic.
However, I am perhaps fortunate that I have faced few real challenges outside of my usual routine since my holiday in June and yet, the next time something comes up (e.g. going to Prague for my 30th in September), I know I will still have a fundamental lack of self-belief that I will not be able to cope, potentially causing panic if I react to the "second fear".
By the way, I have now begun CBT sessions with an NHS practitioner and, gladly, my therapist seems to have a good grasp on the fact that my anxiety derives from a lack of self-esteem.
"I don't believe I can do it" sadly still remains my maxim in life to any perceived challenge. So that, on the day, I feel that the challenge (e.g. going into work, going away from home) must be grimly met rather than seen as something I can do and/or an opportunity, even if I do see it as an opportunity when the plan is first mooted.
Worse still, this has also affected my home-life and especially my morning routine. Though I have lived out before (and struggled), I currently live at home with my parents, and so I am still very mothered, and do little for myself around the house.
I admit that I don't know how to cook properly and my mum even provides a packed lunch for work (as she does for my dad), accepting her role as a housewife with little or no complaint, though she works part-time also herself. I guess some of my anxiety stems from the fact that I feel guilty about this and, while I will always be her baby boy to her, I personally do not want to feel like a baby.
Finally, my morning routine is almost non-existent as I feel that this is when I am at my most anxious as I face the challenge of the day ahead. Eventually, I will drag my heavy anxious tummy out of bed, enjoy a cat's lick for a wash if I am lucky (don't worry, I do shower!), and sometimes use mouthwash if I remember.
I never brush my teeth nowadays as, when I last did, I had a problem with gagging as my anxiety seems to result in acid reflux. I don't have breakfast at home - again, I fear I would gag if I tried to rush it - and so my first food is usually an apple and a banana on first break at work at approx 10.30.
With me still being quite early on my therapy sessions, my task this week is to consider short-term and long-term goals to achieve through the therapy. As you can see from reading, I consider that I have quite a good grasp on what my issues are but, obviously, solving them is another matter.
I don't just want to write "I want to feel my confident and believe in myself" as it's a bit wooly and, as far as I am aware, goal-setting should always be measurable. Any ideas of specific stuff I should be putting down? Any responses will be much appreciated.
Thanks for reading,
Peter:)
Apologies for not posting more often and sorry this is a long one. Perhaps I should have still been posting as I have still lurked as a reader on this site as my situation has remained quite regular at the moment in that my anxiety levels are about the same.
Of course, that in itself is not a bad thing as life is thankfully tolerable at the moment - I am working full-time and have had active social life, and I am aware thanks to the Anxiety Goddess that is Claire Weekes on how to avoid panic.
However, I am perhaps fortunate that I have faced few real challenges outside of my usual routine since my holiday in June and yet, the next time something comes up (e.g. going to Prague for my 30th in September), I know I will still have a fundamental lack of self-belief that I will not be able to cope, potentially causing panic if I react to the "second fear".
By the way, I have now begun CBT sessions with an NHS practitioner and, gladly, my therapist seems to have a good grasp on the fact that my anxiety derives from a lack of self-esteem.
"I don't believe I can do it" sadly still remains my maxim in life to any perceived challenge. So that, on the day, I feel that the challenge (e.g. going into work, going away from home) must be grimly met rather than seen as something I can do and/or an opportunity, even if I do see it as an opportunity when the plan is first mooted.
Worse still, this has also affected my home-life and especially my morning routine. Though I have lived out before (and struggled), I currently live at home with my parents, and so I am still very mothered, and do little for myself around the house.
I admit that I don't know how to cook properly and my mum even provides a packed lunch for work (as she does for my dad), accepting her role as a housewife with little or no complaint, though she works part-time also herself. I guess some of my anxiety stems from the fact that I feel guilty about this and, while I will always be her baby boy to her, I personally do not want to feel like a baby.
Finally, my morning routine is almost non-existent as I feel that this is when I am at my most anxious as I face the challenge of the day ahead. Eventually, I will drag my heavy anxious tummy out of bed, enjoy a cat's lick for a wash if I am lucky (don't worry, I do shower!), and sometimes use mouthwash if I remember.
I never brush my teeth nowadays as, when I last did, I had a problem with gagging as my anxiety seems to result in acid reflux. I don't have breakfast at home - again, I fear I would gag if I tried to rush it - and so my first food is usually an apple and a banana on first break at work at approx 10.30.
With me still being quite early on my therapy sessions, my task this week is to consider short-term and long-term goals to achieve through the therapy. As you can see from reading, I consider that I have quite a good grasp on what my issues are but, obviously, solving them is another matter.
I don't just want to write "I want to feel my confident and believe in myself" as it's a bit wooly and, as far as I am aware, goal-setting should always be measurable. Any ideas of specific stuff I should be putting down? Any responses will be much appreciated.
Thanks for reading,
Peter:)