bagpuss75
24-08-13, 12:21
I have suffered from anxiety for many years, and learnt to deal with it on the whole. I internalise it, and have strategies which include keeping busy.
I lead a very full and normal life and am fiercely independent, but never truly happy because of my anxiety and persistent beating myself up about things.
I have met an amazing man. He is very understanding about my issues and very caring and patient. However, he keeps trying to fix me. Keeps telling me that he thinks I'm amazing and he wants me to think the same about myself because it will stop the anxiety. I've asked him not to, as I don't want to be 'fixed' and being told I'm amazing is not going to help me. We've had quite a few arguments about this, as he just wants to help. But I don't want help.
I don't know if it's my issue or his, or if I'm being really hard on him, or if he needs to listen to me more. I know I'm very lucky to have someone who cares so much and wants to help me.
Am I being unreasonable?
I lead a very full and normal life and am fiercely independent, but never truly happy because of my anxiety and persistent beating myself up about things.
I have met an amazing man. He is very understanding about my issues and very caring and patient. However, he keeps trying to fix me. Keeps telling me that he thinks I'm amazing and he wants me to think the same about myself because it will stop the anxiety. I've asked him not to, as I don't want to be 'fixed' and being told I'm amazing is not going to help me. We've had quite a few arguments about this, as he just wants to help. But I don't want help.
I don't know if it's my issue or his, or if I'm being really hard on him, or if he needs to listen to me more. I know I'm very lucky to have someone who cares so much and wants to help me.
Am I being unreasonable?