Col
04-09-13, 09:52
...... I can NOT cope, as some of u might know I'm pregnant have a 4 year old and 11 year old. Anyway not slept woke up dizzy and got water BUT what really kept me awake ( which being pregnant and a GAD sufferer I really don't need) was my daughter started her new secondary school yesterday and basically came home disheartened and sad.
To cut a long story short she's hung around with a group of 3 specific girls since reception really. Anyway due to class sizes in Y5 they were separated but, had previously always managed to stay in the same class. So Y5 they started turning on each other and it went on for 10 weeks. I recorderd it in a diary and was at my wits end as this was during a bad bought of panic attacks for me. Anyway, 2 of the 4 girls - typical ignoring , running away from my daughter and another girl in the group? Whispering dirty looks etc. BUT 10 weeks was horrific!Very awkward, as being her best friends and friendship group I didn't want to fall out with the mums.
Anyway I waited 10 weeks as I know kids are fickle at times and didn't want to run into school telling tales at the first instant and gave the girls time to sort it out. But, Eventually I went to see headmistress she sorted it IMMEADIATLY. But happend agaiin & the girl who was getting as much grief as my child, decided if u can't beat them join them and eventually my daughter was completely isolated. She was circled by them also - I spoke with one mum who said this was untrue as her daughter said, they were saying goodbye as they were going on a different trip to my daughter & did not circle her.
Anyway they all later admitted to the headmistress they had done this to my daughter & the headmistress said told the girls this was bullying and threatening behaviour. SO that girl was lying to her mum which I have recently brought up and said to the mum who first denied it. THIS MUM would not have it, that her daughter was bullying and Kept saying - they're all as bad as each other they're ready for a change of sch?
Just before summer happened again but because they're all going to/ at the same secondary, I decided again take it up with parents, we've all invested a lot of time and effort into this group of girls over the years , so surly the mums will be upset by this & I didn't want to go to headmistress right at the end of Y6 also. Anyway texted mums I was worried this might trail up to their secondary school in September!
Again they shrugged it off, I made it clear I had bided my time and not been hasty & to see over the weeks if it would calm down naturally and I was met by - ohhhh so sorry to here this , will have a chat. That was it. Very airy fairy. So over summer I've not contacted any of the 3 mums to arrange a day out in order that they'd return this September to a new school m new start and hopefully my daughter would find new friends.
SOOOOOO first day back yesterrday - she had a good day BUT one of the 3 girls ignoring her, staring , wouldn't talk blah blah. BUT fine with other girls in their group. INFURIATING!!!!!!
My daughter said she daren't question the girl if she does it again today because she fears the rest of the group might turn against her again - like before? We've encouraged her to make new friends being in a much bigger school & loads of new kids BUT I know this might take a while because starting secondary can be very daunting & overwhelming.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO???? IS THIS OUTRIGHT BULLYING ???? SHOULD I WAIT A FEW DAYS. & CONTACT SCHOOL???? I just can't afford to loose sleep and my health over this. Me and hubby sooooooo mad.... Please help:mad:
To cut a long story short she's hung around with a group of 3 specific girls since reception really. Anyway due to class sizes in Y5 they were separated but, had previously always managed to stay in the same class. So Y5 they started turning on each other and it went on for 10 weeks. I recorderd it in a diary and was at my wits end as this was during a bad bought of panic attacks for me. Anyway, 2 of the 4 girls - typical ignoring , running away from my daughter and another girl in the group? Whispering dirty looks etc. BUT 10 weeks was horrific!Very awkward, as being her best friends and friendship group I didn't want to fall out with the mums.
Anyway I waited 10 weeks as I know kids are fickle at times and didn't want to run into school telling tales at the first instant and gave the girls time to sort it out. But, Eventually I went to see headmistress she sorted it IMMEADIATLY. But happend agaiin & the girl who was getting as much grief as my child, decided if u can't beat them join them and eventually my daughter was completely isolated. She was circled by them also - I spoke with one mum who said this was untrue as her daughter said, they were saying goodbye as they were going on a different trip to my daughter & did not circle her.
Anyway they all later admitted to the headmistress they had done this to my daughter & the headmistress said told the girls this was bullying and threatening behaviour. SO that girl was lying to her mum which I have recently brought up and said to the mum who first denied it. THIS MUM would not have it, that her daughter was bullying and Kept saying - they're all as bad as each other they're ready for a change of sch?
Just before summer happened again but because they're all going to/ at the same secondary, I decided again take it up with parents, we've all invested a lot of time and effort into this group of girls over the years , so surly the mums will be upset by this & I didn't want to go to headmistress right at the end of Y6 also. Anyway texted mums I was worried this might trail up to their secondary school in September!
Again they shrugged it off, I made it clear I had bided my time and not been hasty & to see over the weeks if it would calm down naturally and I was met by - ohhhh so sorry to here this , will have a chat. That was it. Very airy fairy. So over summer I've not contacted any of the 3 mums to arrange a day out in order that they'd return this September to a new school m new start and hopefully my daughter would find new friends.
SOOOOOO first day back yesterrday - she had a good day BUT one of the 3 girls ignoring her, staring , wouldn't talk blah blah. BUT fine with other girls in their group. INFURIATING!!!!!!
My daughter said she daren't question the girl if she does it again today because she fears the rest of the group might turn against her again - like before? We've encouraged her to make new friends being in a much bigger school & loads of new kids BUT I know this might take a while because starting secondary can be very daunting & overwhelming.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO???? IS THIS OUTRIGHT BULLYING ???? SHOULD I WAIT A FEW DAYS. & CONTACT SCHOOL???? I just can't afford to loose sleep and my health over this. Me and hubby sooooooo mad.... Please help:mad: