Laurie28
06-07-04, 12:37
Hiya guys,
My friend is pregnant and is unsure as what to do.
She has had two abortiions and a child.
She is unsure what to do about the 4th pregancy, her dilemma is she wants to keep the baby and her partner does not.
I DO NOT want anyones personal views on abortion here as we have all go them but that isn't the issue I want to talk about.
I think if she goes ahead with the termination then she could end up seriously depressed having aborted a child that (although not planned) she wouldn't mind having.
her viww is that it was unplanned so she could go ahead with the termination and be okay
I disagree - in my opinion if a woman has an abortion she must be 100 percent sure that is what she wants to do.
I have told her that since she has known for 2 weeks that she was pregant and never wavered from the fact that she would like to keep the baby until yesterday (because her partner is not going to babk down on his opinion) then she should probably not have the abortion as a) it will probably ruin her marriage as she could resent her partner (although her marriage could possibly be over if she keeps the baby)and b) she could end up seriously depressed
Also I don't know how many abortions you can have before you cannot have any more kids
i have told her she must start using contraception as this is not the answer
Can someone give me their views ie how can I help
I know I can be there for her regardless but i am soo scared she is going to make a seriously wrong decision to please her partner
Lucky
My friend is pregnant and is unsure as what to do.
She has had two abortiions and a child.
She is unsure what to do about the 4th pregancy, her dilemma is she wants to keep the baby and her partner does not.
I DO NOT want anyones personal views on abortion here as we have all go them but that isn't the issue I want to talk about.
I think if she goes ahead with the termination then she could end up seriously depressed having aborted a child that (although not planned) she wouldn't mind having.
her viww is that it was unplanned so she could go ahead with the termination and be okay
I disagree - in my opinion if a woman has an abortion she must be 100 percent sure that is what she wants to do.
I have told her that since she has known for 2 weeks that she was pregant and never wavered from the fact that she would like to keep the baby until yesterday (because her partner is not going to babk down on his opinion) then she should probably not have the abortion as a) it will probably ruin her marriage as she could resent her partner (although her marriage could possibly be over if she keeps the baby)and b) she could end up seriously depressed
Also I don't know how many abortions you can have before you cannot have any more kids
i have told her she must start using contraception as this is not the answer
Can someone give me their views ie how can I help
I know I can be there for her regardless but i am soo scared she is going to make a seriously wrong decision to please her partner
Lucky