Rebrec
26-09-13, 02:57
I woke up from a panic attack of having lost control over my life. My heart is pounding and sweat is breaking out on my palms and feet every time I think of a prospect of almost an entire year of my precious life spent here before we get to move to another city.
Me and my partner moved to France from UK (he is French, I am Latvian) so he could save up some money for our future family and I don't speak a word of French for learning which I can barely find any energy since I don't like it here so much and don't see myself staying after the agreed time in his parent's house that would be otherwise unoccupied.
I don't control anything except for maybe some everyday inadequacies of my fiance's behavior (of my choice). I have become very bitter, controlling, bossy and very unhappy. Being arrogant hurts me and him, but at those moments it seems crucial to be just that -an arrogant bag of anger.
A one year of boredom. One year I will regret having lived like this on my last hour of life. So much I had to get up and write about it at 3am.
I had a nice job in UK, some really good friends I had just starting to love and my hobbies were flourishing (I am a musician in a band, that now I only get to do digitally.. with help of Skype and other nonsense..) Here my only friend is my man and his family maybe too, but to only some extent. None of us can speak other language properly and they don't seem to understand my panic.
They are comfortable and happy in their land, but what about me..? I had to apologize one night for acting the way I did (I didn't come down to dinner, because I was crying myself to sleep all day long) which was extremely embarrassing for me, plus I don't even know if they understood everything I said.
Is it worth trying to adapt or are these signs of a mistake? I just don't like it here... My partner says it is best for our future, for kids... but what kids? If I am like this - there will be no family, or home, or kids.
Me and my partner moved to France from UK (he is French, I am Latvian) so he could save up some money for our future family and I don't speak a word of French for learning which I can barely find any energy since I don't like it here so much and don't see myself staying after the agreed time in his parent's house that would be otherwise unoccupied.
I don't control anything except for maybe some everyday inadequacies of my fiance's behavior (of my choice). I have become very bitter, controlling, bossy and very unhappy. Being arrogant hurts me and him, but at those moments it seems crucial to be just that -an arrogant bag of anger.
A one year of boredom. One year I will regret having lived like this on my last hour of life. So much I had to get up and write about it at 3am.
I had a nice job in UK, some really good friends I had just starting to love and my hobbies were flourishing (I am a musician in a band, that now I only get to do digitally.. with help of Skype and other nonsense..) Here my only friend is my man and his family maybe too, but to only some extent. None of us can speak other language properly and they don't seem to understand my panic.
They are comfortable and happy in their land, but what about me..? I had to apologize one night for acting the way I did (I didn't come down to dinner, because I was crying myself to sleep all day long) which was extremely embarrassing for me, plus I don't even know if they understood everything I said.
Is it worth trying to adapt or are these signs of a mistake? I just don't like it here... My partner says it is best for our future, for kids... but what kids? If I am like this - there will be no family, or home, or kids.