dally
27-09-13, 19:20
Hi all
I was invited to a neighbours McMillan charity tea this afternoon.
Don't have social phobia, but last year there was one neighbour who berated most of the other people on our street, some of whom I am friendly with and SHE knows this!! So I wasn't particularly happy abut going.
The grumpy neighbour was going on about how she will get up at 4am to make a lot of noise because 'everyone in this street does it all weekend!!!'.
My son came home last sat night at 1.30am to pick up his guitar and some drink to head off to a party elsewhere and the taxi WAS running its engine for about 10 mins. His friend did shout hurry up ONCE. But it was for no more than 10 mins tops.
Also, My husband works shifts and he gets a work taxi, which comes at 4.30am five days in a row, once every month. But apart from the noise of the taxi engine and my h. Opening and closing the taxi door that's it.
The grumpy person 'hates' the family across from her. They do have 7, yes 7 cars. 4 people have one each, one work car and two girlfriends cars who are there nearly every night. S they double park etc. But if they pay their road tax etc and are not causing obstructing a driveway, they can park anywhere. right?
It's just I felt the grumpy person was soo obnoxious,
Why can't she live and let live.
My point is I wish I could have been assertive and actually asked her outright, who she was referring to that was making all the noise, ALL THE TIME, at 4.30am.
because it wasn't me or mine, and I wish I could've politely made her feel like a grumpy old woman who needs to get a life and learn to share her environment.
Our street is basically a nice one with decent people, but there are children in their twenties who live there. Who will come and go at early hours.!!! She has no children. I am a VERY light sleeper and with windows open ALL summer, I didn't hear any noise!!
also I felt very much that she was particularly 'telling me' how she felt so that I could tell 'these people and that included EVERYONE IN THE STREET!! (She said)
My head said, god you are so angry!!! And what I wanted to say to her was
'Well why don't you actually go to everyone's door that is annoying you and tell/ask them to stop the noise/behaviour.
This is supposed to be a pleasant afternoon tea, raising some money for Macmillan nurses!!
But I said nothing.
I felt firstly, that it would've been VERY BAD Manners-to my host, to join in with such a negative vibe in company, some of whom I did not know and who did not live in th street
But I said nothing.
I am so disappointed in myself that I said nothing.
I am useless at confrontation
But more that that, I can't think of anything appropriate to say at the time, always afterwards.
Rant over!!
I was invited to a neighbours McMillan charity tea this afternoon.
Don't have social phobia, but last year there was one neighbour who berated most of the other people on our street, some of whom I am friendly with and SHE knows this!! So I wasn't particularly happy abut going.
The grumpy neighbour was going on about how she will get up at 4am to make a lot of noise because 'everyone in this street does it all weekend!!!'.
My son came home last sat night at 1.30am to pick up his guitar and some drink to head off to a party elsewhere and the taxi WAS running its engine for about 10 mins. His friend did shout hurry up ONCE. But it was for no more than 10 mins tops.
Also, My husband works shifts and he gets a work taxi, which comes at 4.30am five days in a row, once every month. But apart from the noise of the taxi engine and my h. Opening and closing the taxi door that's it.
The grumpy person 'hates' the family across from her. They do have 7, yes 7 cars. 4 people have one each, one work car and two girlfriends cars who are there nearly every night. S they double park etc. But if they pay their road tax etc and are not causing obstructing a driveway, they can park anywhere. right?
It's just I felt the grumpy person was soo obnoxious,
Why can't she live and let live.
My point is I wish I could have been assertive and actually asked her outright, who she was referring to that was making all the noise, ALL THE TIME, at 4.30am.
because it wasn't me or mine, and I wish I could've politely made her feel like a grumpy old woman who needs to get a life and learn to share her environment.
Our street is basically a nice one with decent people, but there are children in their twenties who live there. Who will come and go at early hours.!!! She has no children. I am a VERY light sleeper and with windows open ALL summer, I didn't hear any noise!!
also I felt very much that she was particularly 'telling me' how she felt so that I could tell 'these people and that included EVERYONE IN THE STREET!! (She said)
My head said, god you are so angry!!! And what I wanted to say to her was
'Well why don't you actually go to everyone's door that is annoying you and tell/ask them to stop the noise/behaviour.
This is supposed to be a pleasant afternoon tea, raising some money for Macmillan nurses!!
But I said nothing.
I felt firstly, that it would've been VERY BAD Manners-to my host, to join in with such a negative vibe in company, some of whom I did not know and who did not live in th street
But I said nothing.
I am so disappointed in myself that I said nothing.
I am useless at confrontation
But more that that, I can't think of anything appropriate to say at the time, always afterwards.
Rant over!!