cham
10-10-13, 13:57
this time last year i was on this forum seeing help for my health anxiety, which i can now say has subsided.
however here i find myself back on the forum seeking advice.
I have been seeing a girl for a year now and at 28 origionally felt the best relationship iv had in my life. We are just so compatable. We have been through some very difficult times over the year, such as abortion and so on. In june my gf's mood gradually began to lower. This resulted in her social life decresing etc and our time with the 2 girls (from previous relationships) as a family dissapeared. Things have really got worse. She has been diagnosed with depression, and admits getting worse not better. She has now stopped staying over mine, hiding away in her granfathers, and all intamacy has withered down into nothing. she has stopped texting, and if i text her which is not often, she is very short, and to the point. Iv tried not to be so selfish and not think about my feelings and on times she has reassured me of our relationship. but i dont want to pester her, which will make things worse. Iv offered support and said will give her the space she needs. Yet she will still meet friends, go to uni, and be fine when we work. Why am i being rejected? I come on here as its affecting my mental state, and i am beginning to suffer with low moods myself.
Please do not suggest a break as we are realistically on one. and i cant let this girl go because i love and want to support her through these tough times. im just looking for similar experiences, or the truth as to if this isnt depression and she just wants out?
many thanks,
mark
however here i find myself back on the forum seeking advice.
I have been seeing a girl for a year now and at 28 origionally felt the best relationship iv had in my life. We are just so compatable. We have been through some very difficult times over the year, such as abortion and so on. In june my gf's mood gradually began to lower. This resulted in her social life decresing etc and our time with the 2 girls (from previous relationships) as a family dissapeared. Things have really got worse. She has been diagnosed with depression, and admits getting worse not better. She has now stopped staying over mine, hiding away in her granfathers, and all intamacy has withered down into nothing. she has stopped texting, and if i text her which is not often, she is very short, and to the point. Iv tried not to be so selfish and not think about my feelings and on times she has reassured me of our relationship. but i dont want to pester her, which will make things worse. Iv offered support and said will give her the space she needs. Yet she will still meet friends, go to uni, and be fine when we work. Why am i being rejected? I come on here as its affecting my mental state, and i am beginning to suffer with low moods myself.
Please do not suggest a break as we are realistically on one. and i cant let this girl go because i love and want to support her through these tough times. im just looking for similar experiences, or the truth as to if this isnt depression and she just wants out?
many thanks,
mark