Pilchard
29-10-13, 16:13
I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
My OH has had a bad year - she has been off from work since January due to anxiety/depression caused by personality issues at work (other people's not hers). Her employer was not the most supportive and as my OH was adamant that she couldn't return, she resigned.
We were hoping that this would bring the situation to a close but it hasn't. She is constantly depressed and I have to admit that although I'm trying my best to be supportive I can feel that I am getting to my wit's end.
Believe me, I know this is being unfair but as much as I try to explain to her constantly that she's done the right thing and that she's better off out of it, it doesn't seem to be helping. She is worried out money but I earn enough to cover our outgoings and I tell her that it's not an issue (it really isn't) but it doesn't seem to register with her. She is looking for other employment but obviously this is not easy nowadays. And the constant applying for jobs and either hearing nothing or being turned done is not helping her either.
I encourage her to go out and arrange to meet friends but I think she is embarrassed in case she's sees anybody she used to work with even though she has done nothing wrong and has got nothing to feel ashamed about (which again I tell her all the time!).
A lot of people, even those close to her (her family) have told her to "pull herself together" and whilst I have been sorely tempted to do the same, I feel that this is one of the last things somebody in her position needs to here.
I know there is no quick fix but would be really grateful if anybody could give me/us some practical advise about helping her to get out of this.
Thanks.
My OH has had a bad year - she has been off from work since January due to anxiety/depression caused by personality issues at work (other people's not hers). Her employer was not the most supportive and as my OH was adamant that she couldn't return, she resigned.
We were hoping that this would bring the situation to a close but it hasn't. She is constantly depressed and I have to admit that although I'm trying my best to be supportive I can feel that I am getting to my wit's end.
Believe me, I know this is being unfair but as much as I try to explain to her constantly that she's done the right thing and that she's better off out of it, it doesn't seem to be helping. She is worried out money but I earn enough to cover our outgoings and I tell her that it's not an issue (it really isn't) but it doesn't seem to register with her. She is looking for other employment but obviously this is not easy nowadays. And the constant applying for jobs and either hearing nothing or being turned done is not helping her either.
I encourage her to go out and arrange to meet friends but I think she is embarrassed in case she's sees anybody she used to work with even though she has done nothing wrong and has got nothing to feel ashamed about (which again I tell her all the time!).
A lot of people, even those close to her (her family) have told her to "pull herself together" and whilst I have been sorely tempted to do the same, I feel that this is one of the last things somebody in her position needs to here.
I know there is no quick fix but would be really grateful if anybody could give me/us some practical advise about helping her to get out of this.
Thanks.