Lost Will

[schapmanowl]

Can anyone help me please i am sat hear crying while writing this i dont know what to do, i am convinced i have some form of cancer in my mouth or throat and dont know what to do. i have had a funny throat for a few months now and it wont go, i am due to see a specialist on the 22nd november but i cant wait that long its driving me insane. i am male and 23 and this is meant to be the best moment of my life as i have just got married to my childhood sweetheart, i dont want anything to happen to me but i just know it is i cant get it out of my head. Its worse when i am on nights at work because i work alone and then in day when i get up because my partner is at work and i am on my own again. the back of my mouth is constantly red. i have no other family who i can really talk to as my mum emigrated and my dad and i have not been on speaking terms for 2 years and i dont know why. its putting a strain on our relationship already and we have only been married just over a month. i also get ear ache every now and again and headaches aswell has having pain in the side of my neck for 3 month and my head and neck always feel funny also my tongue is tingling all the time. i have given up with alcohol and only drink water now. please help anyone i dont know what else to do:weep:

[Liviguy]

Hi there,

What exactly are your symptoms and when did you do and see your GP?

[HoneyLove]

I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time right now, especially just after being married :( Was it the wedding that triggered your anxiety?

Do you tend to clench your jaw when you are anxious? Or do you clench and grind your teeth in your sleep?

[schapmanowl]

hi i have seen my GP no lie about 20 times i have nasal congestion in one side, a red sore at back of mouth what wont go away its been there 3 month, a dry sore throat what feels tight, loads of phlegm, headache, earache, pain in neck on each side mainly on right side though. i have had blood tests everything came back fine, i told doctor on monday i was worried about mouth or throat cancer and he said its a small percent. but i am convinced i have it and that small percent is me. am just constantly depressed,down and no motivation to do anything. its like theres something stuck in my throat its hell

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I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time right now, especially just after being married :( Was it the wedding that triggered your anxiety?

Do you tend to clench your jaw when you are anxious? Or do you clench and grind your teeth in your sleep?
i was having symptoms on the build up to the wedding but i was happy, and no i dont clench or anything and my jaw dosent hurt. GP says your stressed and its minimal chance it can be serious but i dont want him to think i am just stressed and the wedding has triggered it off when i know there is something wrong thanks for your reply

[Liviguy]

Unfortunately for you and most of us fellow HA sufferers you have to try hard to accept what the Dr has told you. They know the signs of serious illnesses and would not let you leave if they had any suspicion of serious illness.

It's easy to say, I still to this day find it difficult to believe a Dr but I am trying hard to do it. My aunt went to the Dr in March with a minor issue and ended up in hospital the same day. I won't go into details as it sometimes makes things worse, but if they suspect a slight chance of something serious you would be referred.

[Fishmanpa]

Hi,

I had head and neck cancer, specifically, oropharyngeal (back of throat). What you describe doesn't present itself like oral cancer. It actually sounds like severe allergies or sinus issues. I had no symptoms other than a swollen painless hard lymph node on the left side of my neck that didn't go away with antibiotics.

The cancer mantra is "It's not cancer until the say it's cancer", and the oral cancer rule of thumb is: If you have a lesion, area or node in your neck that doesn't resolve in 2-3 weeks, see a qualified oral surgeon or ENT that is familiar with oral cancer. This could be many other things besides cancer. The only way to know for sure is through a biopsy of the suspicious area.

Positive thoughts and prayers

[schapmanowl]

Unfortunately for you and most of us fellow HA sufferers you have to try hard to accept what the Dr has told you. They know the signs of serious illnesses and would not let you leave if they had any suspicion of serious illness.

It's easy to say, I still to this day find it difficult to believe a Dr but I am trying hard to do it. My aunt went to the Dr in March with a minor issue and ended up in hospital the same day. I won't go into details as it sometimes makes things worse, but if they suspect a slight chance of something serious you would be referred.
Thats it thoufh i have been refered because he dosent know whats wrong i cant cope with it we were making plans to start a family now i am in a waiting period to see the specialist