should I go?

[T*]

My partner is in a band and they have their first big gig coming up, amd I dont think I can go. I really want to go to support him but even the thought of it made me have a panoc attack today, had really bad chest pains with it too, which ive never had before.
I dont think I have social anxiety, as I socialise often, amd I really get on wth his bandmates and friends so is nothing to do with them. He'd be heartbroken if I dont go, and im afraid itll make him feel like I dont care. I dont know why im so anxious about it, amd feel like itll be really bad if I go.but also really bad if I dont go.?!

[Fishmanpa]

I'm a musician (solo singer guitarist) although I haven't done a gig since last year when the cancer crap started :( My gf comes out to some of my gigs, mostly on weekends and such. On the weeknight gigs I'd rather she didn't come because it's just a gig (business) and she knows all my songs anyway.

Now, on a special gig or when I perform with my singing partner in the duo, I like her to be there because it supports me and makes her happy to see the positive response I/we get.

You're right to assume that your boyfriend would be disappointed, especially in light of the fact that it's their first big gig. I know I would if it were me. Maybe a med to help put you at ease? But maybe just being there with all the excitement will distract you and you won't feel anxious :) Focus on supporting him as opposed to the fear.

Positive thoughts and good luck!

[ankietyjoe]

If you go and you have a panic attack, then so what?

That's the way I look at such situations now.

[Brunette]

What is it that's worrying you? There are various things I can think of at a gig that might trigger a panic attack - the volume, the lighting, the crowd or all three.

As the above poster has suggested you could just let it happen if it's going to happen - or if you can't face that, how about arranging to be somewhere backstage rather than out front?

[T*]

I think im worried that if I do have a panic attack it will ruin their gig, amd ill be very embaressed.
I think they want me there so much on this one because I got them this gig, and kmow the other bands playing so could imtroduce them ect. I know ill obviously go , but dont know wther its a good idea at the moment. Thankyu for your replies x

[Rennie1989]

Don't stop yourself from going because there is a slight possibility that you will have a panic attack. Remember to breathe naturally and to not focus too much on the symptoms. It would do you a world of good going, and I'll bet you'll have a wicked time too.

Besides, if you don't go to this gig because of phantom panic attack what else will you start avoiding? You'll start to avoid simple situations, meeting friends, shopping, going to the pictures, next thing you'll be stuck at home because of agoraphobia. Don't succumb to it.

[T*]

You are right rennie, I cant and wont let it stop me doing everything. I also wont let it get in the way of showing people I love them. (Feels good to write it down)
Its on saturday, so hopefully this positive attitude will last. I am so exited for them, theyve just had a known producer approach them about working with them, and they all deserve it.