No-baby blues?

[rozbeth]

Hi, this is the first time I've posted a message on this site though I've visited often enough before! Just wondering if anyone else has experienced a return/worsening of panic when trying for a baby? Have been doing pretty well of late, hardly any panics and medication-free since the summer (apart from the odd sneaky diazepam ;o) but am worried now as we are trying for a baby and I think my hormones may be playing a merry game with the panics, had a real stinker a week ago during the night, complete with the shakes, very dramatic ;o) Suspected I was pregnant at the time but this morning the Big Bad Period landed and I have been weepy and panicky since, had another panic attack this pm when I felt as though all the veins in my neck and head were being stretched as tight as cat-gut, not pleasant! Took diazepam and promptly fell asleep on the floor, just coming round now ;o) I know that, officially, the menstrual cycle does not affect panics but I find that very hard to believe - any thoughts?

[yorkylover]

Hi and welcome to the forum.I know how frustrated you must feel,finding out your not pregnant.Anxiety can change the way you feel at your period time,it can make your alot more anxious.You will find some helpfull advise here,and make lots of friends.There will also be lots of support for you here.;)

Ellen XX

[Melxxx]

Hi Rozbeth,

Sorry too hear you are having a bad time at the moment.

I seem to feel more panicky just before my period and I know a lot of ladies on here do as well. As you say it could be your hormones playing havoc with you.

There are lots of threads on here about panic and PMT that might help I am sure someone wiser than me can point you in the right direction to find them.

Hope you feel better soon

Mel


The kindness we extend to others in their their hour of need will return to us at the time we most need it.

[rozbeth]

Hi Ellen and Mel, thanks so much for the quick responses, how lovely to hear your kind words so quickly :O) I will have a scout around the site to see what other info there is on this subject, and meantime will batten down the hatches and tough it out - something we've all had plenty of practice at.....!
Roz xx

[Melxxx]

Robeth,

I have found them lol

PMT and Anxiety/panic

period trouble [ladies please] (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2961)

one for the females (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3572)

ok - here's a REALLY strange question !!! (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4010)

girls only (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4554)

PMT PANIC (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4881)

PMT, tiredness, and feeling of unreality (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=6670)

Bleuuuuuurgh -for the girls on here! (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7372)

time of the month (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7421)

Mel xxx


The kindness we extend to others in their their hour of need will return to us at the time we most need it.

[rozbeth]

Mel, u r a star, thank you :o))
Roz x

[nomorepanic]

Hi Roz

Welcome aboard and lovely to see you here.

Try this post too...

Hormones
http://www.nomorepanic.org.uk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=3362


Nicola

People will forget what you said
People will forget what you did
But people will never forget how you made them feel

[tam]

hi rozbeth well it was only 2 days ago that i posted about the time of the month.i feel worse at this time every month and its really bad.your definatley not on your own i am sure that the menstrual cycle makes everything worse.i have just got evening primrose oil and vitamin b complex which are suppose to help,but you better check these ok if you trying for a baby.i remember when i was trying to get pregnant and can be quite stressfull ,good luck and hope you feel better soon.tc tracy

[LickeyEndBlues]

Hi Rozbeth

As a guy I relate to your situation in a slightly different way I guess. When we decided to go for a family after 11 years of marriage, it took us ages...around 18 or so months. As a result sex was becoming more functional and less enjoyable.

We were getting concerned about it but decided that neither of us could face tests and stuff at that stage. As we had been together over 11 years we decided that maybe it wasn't to be. We had previously convinced our families that was the case anyway.

Cutting a long story short we stopped "trying" and just got on with life. We ended up extending our mortgage to buy a holiday home and no sooner than we had signed the contract....guess what!!

18 years later we have two great kids (well great sometimes...up for adoption the rest of the time).

I think we sometimes put ourselves under too much pressure and the anxiety just gets in the way.

I'm not really to sure of what advice I'm giving you here other than try to relax and just enjoy.

Have fun

Iain

Laissez les bon temp roulez

[rozbeth]

Hi Tam and Iain

Thanks so much for your replies, very reassuring. I get frustrated sometines when the panic attacks resurface but try to understand why that might be, I think in my case I'm still a bit vulnerable to them when I'm under any emotional stress (aren't we all?!) and certainly do need more than anything to try and relax and enjoy life. Good advice.
Can't go through this every month, otherwise it will put my long-suffering husband right off any baby-making shenanigans lol

A happy day to all - the sun is shining :o)

Roz