back pain and pancreatic cancer no response. to posth

[austinali66]

I posted yesterday but no response, feeling very loat.

[mummyanxious]

Hardly anyone ever responds to my posts either. It is upsetting but I try and tell myself its because perhaps people don't know the answer?

[cattia]

I didn't see your original post, but apparently back pain is the number one cause of missed days off work. That shows how incredibly common this problem is. Pacreatic cancer on the other hand is not common. It probably isn't even in the top one hundred causes of days off work. It's usually muscular, so try not to worry.

[Amandala]

Hi there! I've been dealing with horrific back pain for about 2 weeks now. I've conjured up every disease it could be, I missed an entire week of work, I think more because of the anxiety it is causing. It has to be muscular when it only hurts in certain positions. I keep trying to remind myself that to myself. It'll get better, hang in there with me :)

[skippy66]

You can't come on here expecting medical advice because nobody is qualified to give it.

I used to offer reassurance to people based on 'oh I've had this before and it turned out fine'. But once I realised that reassurance seeking just makes you worse in the long run I stopped. You do not need reassurance, it simply does not work in the long term. If you want to get free of HA you need to start altering your mindset and grow a 'what will be will be' attitude to life. It's the only way.

[nomorepanic]

Just bump up the post and it will get seen again.

Sunday is the quietest day on here as well

[austinali66]

I didnt want Medical advice just wondered if anyone had any similar experience. Surely aome reassurance is what the site is for. I lost my mum in may and am now worried about myself. I hear what you are saying but your tone is very harsh

[Althea]

I'm sorry you're having a bad time of it, austinali. It's always hard to deal with such a major loss.

However, I would say the site is more for help and support than for reassurance, because reassurance tends to be the HA addiction rather than the HA solution. Are there things other than reassurance that you've found to help? Are you doing CBT at all? For many people, even getting away from the computer and doing something physical like a brisk walk or going to the gym can bring some relief--our bodies really don't like sitting around hunched up all the time, and it can be really liberating to break that pattern.

I hope you feel better soon.

[cpe1978]

Completely agree with Skippy and Althea, I swiftly learned that reassurance is to the HA sufferer what the next hit is to a heroin addict and the only option is cold turkey.

[austinali66]

I have had cbt and found it helpful, I'd be worse if it wasnt for that. I did come off medication at the start of the year that was before my mum died. Im just really worried and looking for some kind of support.

---------- Post added at 17:40 ---------- Previous post was at 17:37 ----------

I also run and hold down a job as a teacher plus look after my family so i dont spend my days fretting at home.

[HoneyLove]

When you're feeling really worried it's a good time to sit down and apply some of the CBT exercises you learned to that worry. CBT really needs to be worked at to have a full effect.

With regards to needing support, bereavement counselling might be a good option for you to help you deal with the loss of your mum. That's going to be a hard blow for anyone, and there are supports out there to help you through something like that. There may even be a bereavement support group in your area. It's normal to feel a big impact from losing an important person in your life, so don't be too hard on yourself and reach out for the supports that can help you x

[austinali66]

Thank you honeylove for your thoughtful words kindly spoken. Gp suggested some bereavement councilling when i went this evening.

[cattia]

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Losing someone so close must be heartbreaking and coming up to Christmas is bound to make it feel even worse. I am sure you know that grief manifests in physical ways too sometimes and maybe that's the cause of your aches and pains. CBT might be helpful to address your anxious thinking but I think bereavement counselling would be better to help you with the loss of your mum. I hope you feel better soon.

[Catherine S]

I agree about the bereavement counselling because this kind of anxiety is different and the symptoms of grief are normal, even though they are uncomfortable, and have to be worked through not stopped or controlled as with health anxiety. You need to feel your grief in order to get past it and with the right support. Sorry for your loss...losing your mum must really hurt.

Take care :flowers: xx

[austinali66]

Thank you for kind words