Munki
12-12-13, 16:42
You may remember me from recent posts when I'd had to cancel a friend and felt really bad. Well..it happened again. In a nutshell:
We've been best mates for 18 years though she moved to Surrey (I'm in Birmingham). She got married and at first no one liked him. She gave up her acting career for him (that's how we met - acting) and decided to just work for him. We were all suprised but she now lives a wealthy life with their 2 kids. Anyway, can't deny that we're very different. I'm very earthy (38 - actress and Psych. student) and she's all about the money.
More recently her Mom in law went through depression. She told me that her and her husband 'don't believe in or get depression.' That was a turning point for me. Anyway, that aside...
I've had to cancel 3 times. Simple as. Firstly we were due to go and stay with them but (I'm self employed) a BIG job came in that I absolutely couldn't turn down. The timing was bad but I had to cancel and she was okay. So, we rearrange and my husbands minor op comes in. We couldn't believe it! Again, i had to cancel. We rearrange and i get a hideous bout of labrinthitis whereby I can't even walk! Granted, I am out of order for the cancellations but really...what was I to do?
I told her I was sorry for the inconvenience but none of them could be helped. Please bear in mind that I've always been there for her 100%. This is the first time this has happened. Anyway, she ignores me for 4 days then texts me saying I need to sort myself out!!!
I am not happy at all. I've gone out of my way (as has my whole family) and despite inconveniencing her, I don't think I'm the bad person that I feel I am right now :weep:
I feel like I've murdered someone!
Please help me deal with this. :ohmy:
We've been best mates for 18 years though she moved to Surrey (I'm in Birmingham). She got married and at first no one liked him. She gave up her acting career for him (that's how we met - acting) and decided to just work for him. We were all suprised but she now lives a wealthy life with their 2 kids. Anyway, can't deny that we're very different. I'm very earthy (38 - actress and Psych. student) and she's all about the money.
More recently her Mom in law went through depression. She told me that her and her husband 'don't believe in or get depression.' That was a turning point for me. Anyway, that aside...
I've had to cancel 3 times. Simple as. Firstly we were due to go and stay with them but (I'm self employed) a BIG job came in that I absolutely couldn't turn down. The timing was bad but I had to cancel and she was okay. So, we rearrange and my husbands minor op comes in. We couldn't believe it! Again, i had to cancel. We rearrange and i get a hideous bout of labrinthitis whereby I can't even walk! Granted, I am out of order for the cancellations but really...what was I to do?
I told her I was sorry for the inconvenience but none of them could be helped. Please bear in mind that I've always been there for her 100%. This is the first time this has happened. Anyway, she ignores me for 4 days then texts me saying I need to sort myself out!!!
I am not happy at all. I've gone out of my way (as has my whole family) and despite inconveniencing her, I don't think I'm the bad person that I feel I am right now :weep:
I feel like I've murdered someone!
Please help me deal with this. :ohmy: