AndrewNolan
16-12-13, 20:49
Hi
Tried posting this before but it ended up being an essay so aiming for something a bit shorter this time!
Long story short - I've always struggled with relationships with the opposite sex. I didn't even have sex until this year! Which is really hard for me to admit.
Unfortunately this came to a head last year when I met a girl who I fell completely head over heals for. Even better she liked me too! We were friends initially but one night she told me she was in love with me. She didn't give me the chance to answer though and I had no idea what to say.
She ended up driving off in a taxi and leaving me on my own. This led to me becoming very anxious and things became very tense between us over a period of several months. I never got to express how I felt about her despite the fact that I manged to get her out on a couple of dates. I was just too frustrated, tense, anxious and stressed and she was exactly the same.
We fell out as did me and a couple of our mutual friends. I developed GAD and depression and moved away for a few months. Had a couple of one night stands with girls which helped me at least get over my worry about having sex/expressing feelings.
However, now I'm back but still fixated on this girl I used to date. However, seeing her is enough to induce severe anxiety in me. I'm a complete mess around her.
What I want to do is be able to move on, seperate myself from my feelings for her and be able to start pursuing other opportunities. But I have no idea how to do this? Does anyone have any advice? I'd also appreciate any tips on how I can remain calm around her (we live very close to each other so it's inevitable that I'll see her again).
Thanks
A
Tried posting this before but it ended up being an essay so aiming for something a bit shorter this time!
Long story short - I've always struggled with relationships with the opposite sex. I didn't even have sex until this year! Which is really hard for me to admit.
Unfortunately this came to a head last year when I met a girl who I fell completely head over heals for. Even better she liked me too! We were friends initially but one night she told me she was in love with me. She didn't give me the chance to answer though and I had no idea what to say.
She ended up driving off in a taxi and leaving me on my own. This led to me becoming very anxious and things became very tense between us over a period of several months. I never got to express how I felt about her despite the fact that I manged to get her out on a couple of dates. I was just too frustrated, tense, anxious and stressed and she was exactly the same.
We fell out as did me and a couple of our mutual friends. I developed GAD and depression and moved away for a few months. Had a couple of one night stands with girls which helped me at least get over my worry about having sex/expressing feelings.
However, now I'm back but still fixated on this girl I used to date. However, seeing her is enough to induce severe anxiety in me. I'm a complete mess around her.
What I want to do is be able to move on, seperate myself from my feelings for her and be able to start pursuing other opportunities. But I have no idea how to do this? Does anyone have any advice? I'd also appreciate any tips on how I can remain calm around her (we live very close to each other so it's inevitable that I'll see her again).
Thanks
A