Shadowking58
11-01-14, 20:30
I just started getting this HOCD recently and it's been killing me, I rarely enjoy what I used to whenever it's on my mind. It started last year late 2013 when I started getting small gay thoughts in the back of my head when hanging out with some friends, I was able to keep it at bay for awhile, but eventually, It started getting bigger and bigger, now I can't look at a guy in public without thinking "Oh he's cute" or sometimes my mind will even wander to a desire to perform gay acts on guys, I've been getting headaches from it ever since then, and the few moments where the HOCD isn't affecting me, while short lived, make me feel attracted to girls again, even though they don't arouse me as much because of excessive, well, you know, masturbating. Anyway, I get off to gay porn to an extent, but I never wanted to do it. Now HOCD is taking over my mind, even when I've liked girls all my life. (I even got close to having sex with one of them at around 13 yrs old. Thank god I didn't do that.) I still feel like I'm not gay, yet when the HOCD fades away, the gay thoughts remain. It's like a neverending cycle to me, and I hate it. Even If I do have these constant gay thoughts without the HOCD (Which would show that one leans primarily in that direction when it comes to the sexuality) I still feel no attraction towards guys at all, so I'm wondering if this is still the HOCD and I only THINK that I got rid of it. I just want all this to end!
Now, it has only gotten worse. I should mention that during all this, I never got aroused by any women. ANY. No matter how many I looked at or naked or not, they never got me going. However, on the contrary, looking at guys bodies never got me off either.
I know for a fact that I am straight. But I do have a small lingering bicuriosity, but that's all it feels like, however, the OCD blows it out of proportions. I know I have OCD even though I haven't been diagnosed with it. Because I have a lot of the other symptoms. HOCD just starting recently and adding to that, as I said. Today I still have all these gay fantasies mentioned before, but they still don't mean anything to me. I really feel it's just my bicuriousity being blown out of proportion by the OCD. A few minutes ago was some of the worse moments of my life. I just woke up from a nap and ended up looking at pictures of women completely naked to reassure myself, I couldn't help it. However, I didn't feel any ounce of arousal, like usual. When I realized that, I just looked up guys naked as well, nothing there either. I still feel like I really just want these thoughts and fantasies to go away so I can love women again. But then, I found a forum linking to a movie called "Prayers for Bobby" which was about a guy finding out he was gay. I felt really anxious during the entire movie, I couldn't shake this fear that I'm really gay. And after the movie was over I believed that I was actually gay. I suddenly thought that I was going to kill myself if it came to that, as I can't live with myself being gay. I'm just so scared, And now that I'm posting this. I can't deny that I don't have any attraction to men. However, The recurrent doubts are making me believe that I really am gay. The movie didn't help at all either. It only made it worse! Even If I really am not gay. My HOCD itself along with the curiosity taking over my mind is really making me want to kill myself anyway, I absolutely hate dealing with this disorder anymore, I just want it to go away so badly, much more then ever now. I'm so scared and I just wish I never had to live with all this pain. I'm hoping to god that this is really HOCD, as the doubt of not being diagnosed with it is also scaring me. Please, I just want to know if this is real HOCD, and that I'm not just exaggerating. I also want to know what I can do to live with it. The fact that I also do the same repetitive routine every day is not helping either. :scared15: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: :emot-crying:
Now, it has only gotten worse. I should mention that during all this, I never got aroused by any women. ANY. No matter how many I looked at or naked or not, they never got me going. However, on the contrary, looking at guys bodies never got me off either.
I know for a fact that I am straight. But I do have a small lingering bicuriosity, but that's all it feels like, however, the OCD blows it out of proportions. I know I have OCD even though I haven't been diagnosed with it. Because I have a lot of the other symptoms. HOCD just starting recently and adding to that, as I said. Today I still have all these gay fantasies mentioned before, but they still don't mean anything to me. I really feel it's just my bicuriousity being blown out of proportion by the OCD. A few minutes ago was some of the worse moments of my life. I just woke up from a nap and ended up looking at pictures of women completely naked to reassure myself, I couldn't help it. However, I didn't feel any ounce of arousal, like usual. When I realized that, I just looked up guys naked as well, nothing there either. I still feel like I really just want these thoughts and fantasies to go away so I can love women again. But then, I found a forum linking to a movie called "Prayers for Bobby" which was about a guy finding out he was gay. I felt really anxious during the entire movie, I couldn't shake this fear that I'm really gay. And after the movie was over I believed that I was actually gay. I suddenly thought that I was going to kill myself if it came to that, as I can't live with myself being gay. I'm just so scared, And now that I'm posting this. I can't deny that I don't have any attraction to men. However, The recurrent doubts are making me believe that I really am gay. The movie didn't help at all either. It only made it worse! Even If I really am not gay. My HOCD itself along with the curiosity taking over my mind is really making me want to kill myself anyway, I absolutely hate dealing with this disorder anymore, I just want it to go away so badly, much more then ever now. I'm so scared and I just wish I never had to live with all this pain. I'm hoping to god that this is really HOCD, as the doubt of not being diagnosed with it is also scaring me. Please, I just want to know if this is real HOCD, and that I'm not just exaggerating. I also want to know what I can do to live with it. The fact that I also do the same repetitive routine every day is not helping either. :scared15: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: :emot-crying: