blue_bird
05-02-14, 06:56
Hi,
I have no one I can talk to and my anxiety is getting worse. I know thinking and over thinking isn't good but I am desperately trying to find dome solution to help myself.
I have had anxiety problems all my life but recently they have become unbearable. For the past months in work I have been doing a job I didn't want because so done else was off sick. It meant I had extra responsibility and had to manage other staff who resented me. I struggled on but I think the constant stress has worn me down and now I find even the smallest problem had to cope with.
I also had a lot of stress in my home life, I care for my 80 year old housebound mother, I am an only child.
But one of my main issues with anxiety comes from my partner, I don't mean to blame him because I don't think he realises what he us doing.
Firstly he has agoraphobia and never leaves the house alone, In fact he rarely leaves the house. He doesn't work but fills his time reading or listening to music.
He suffers from depression and it limits his daily activities so he lives in a bit of a world of his own. He stays up late at night and sleeps until lunchtime. If he gets disturbed he gets really annoyed and usually wears earplugs. He hates any kind of noise and even the traffic outside annoys him.
He has a problem with most of our neighbours, one plays his music when the window is open, it doesn't bother me but my partner gets very worked up. Another neighbour has a dog who barks but we also have a barky dog so we can't complain, again it doesn't bother me.
I think my partner is noise sinusitis because every noise annoys him, another neighbour fixes cars and sometimes leaves the engine running, it's just everyday noise but my partner gets so annoyed.
I find myself constantly trying to distract him, either by keeping all the windows closed and the doors or putting the radio on low.
My main fear and what causes my anxiety is that he will confront my neighbours, he has in the past and it caused a scene. We live in a busy area and at weekends there are always drunks walking past usually shouting.
If I suspect it is a noisy day I don't go out, I hang about the house trying to calm him down. It is just general everyday noise but he seems to take it all personally and I have a constant fear he will challenge one of the neighbours about it.
We can't afford to move and to be honest unless we live in a field there is always going to be noise. All day everyday I constantly worry that something will upset him, even children playing in the street put him in a bad mood.
I dread weekends because there is more likely to be noise and I live in a constant state of panic. I have told him how I feel and he assures me he will not react, but I know if he gets wound up enough he will.
The house next door has been getting work done, just usual hammering and sawing and I know he is annoyed by it. I feel like I a tip toeing around.
My anxiety has got so bad I am taking Diazepam just to blot it out. My fears has escalated and I keep fearing something bad is going to happen.
I have no idea what to do....
I have no one I can talk to and my anxiety is getting worse. I know thinking and over thinking isn't good but I am desperately trying to find dome solution to help myself.
I have had anxiety problems all my life but recently they have become unbearable. For the past months in work I have been doing a job I didn't want because so done else was off sick. It meant I had extra responsibility and had to manage other staff who resented me. I struggled on but I think the constant stress has worn me down and now I find even the smallest problem had to cope with.
I also had a lot of stress in my home life, I care for my 80 year old housebound mother, I am an only child.
But one of my main issues with anxiety comes from my partner, I don't mean to blame him because I don't think he realises what he us doing.
Firstly he has agoraphobia and never leaves the house alone, In fact he rarely leaves the house. He doesn't work but fills his time reading or listening to music.
He suffers from depression and it limits his daily activities so he lives in a bit of a world of his own. He stays up late at night and sleeps until lunchtime. If he gets disturbed he gets really annoyed and usually wears earplugs. He hates any kind of noise and even the traffic outside annoys him.
He has a problem with most of our neighbours, one plays his music when the window is open, it doesn't bother me but my partner gets very worked up. Another neighbour has a dog who barks but we also have a barky dog so we can't complain, again it doesn't bother me.
I think my partner is noise sinusitis because every noise annoys him, another neighbour fixes cars and sometimes leaves the engine running, it's just everyday noise but my partner gets so annoyed.
I find myself constantly trying to distract him, either by keeping all the windows closed and the doors or putting the radio on low.
My main fear and what causes my anxiety is that he will confront my neighbours, he has in the past and it caused a scene. We live in a busy area and at weekends there are always drunks walking past usually shouting.
If I suspect it is a noisy day I don't go out, I hang about the house trying to calm him down. It is just general everyday noise but he seems to take it all personally and I have a constant fear he will challenge one of the neighbours about it.
We can't afford to move and to be honest unless we live in a field there is always going to be noise. All day everyday I constantly worry that something will upset him, even children playing in the street put him in a bad mood.
I dread weekends because there is more likely to be noise and I live in a constant state of panic. I have told him how I feel and he assures me he will not react, but I know if he gets wound up enough he will.
The house next door has been getting work done, just usual hammering and sawing and I know he is annoyed by it. I feel like I a tip toeing around.
My anxiety has got so bad I am taking Diazepam just to blot it out. My fears has escalated and I keep fearing something bad is going to happen.
I have no idea what to do....