Kenna5027
07-02-14, 15:39
I posted here a little over a month ago about my major stresses with grad school - namely asking for references to reply. I got a lot of really awesome replies and am thankful. Some of my stress was alleviated, but I'm still having problems and I have no idea how to approach it.
I had one reference who was awesome and wrote for me very quickly. I have another who delayed a bit, but once I got into contact with her was happy to write me the reference as well. I have two others that I am having major problems with, but the deadlines have already passed and I don't know if they wrote for me or not.
One is my college advisor who told me she would write, but I kept getting updates that she hadn't. I reminded her, she said she'd been busy and was doing it, but then I never heard anything else. Another was my job supervisor - she was very happy to write one for me, but I got updates that said she hadn't. I contacted *her* again and she said she'd been busy but now had a lot of time on her hands and was sitting down to write them. I know she hasn't written one yet (this college was happy to give me an extension on the reference letters) but I'm not sure about the other.
I know for a fact these could be submitted online and were not hard to write. One was just answering five prewritten questions, ranking me on a scale of 1-5 in different areas.
I just don't know what I'm going to do if I don't get into grad school, but especially if it is because I didn't have complete applications. The ship has sailed at this point, and I am constantly having panic attacks, not sure what to do. I submitted everything that I possibly could in a timely matter, and I tried to send reminders without driving them up the wall. I would have found others if I could, but when you submit your materials they ask you specifically who is writing, and that cannot be changed.
I fear I am going to end up jobless and alone - and somehow worse, that my friends and family are going to be incredibly disappointed in me. I just can't take it - I've always been the responsible one and now that life is hitting me hard in the face, I am a disaster.
I guess I'm just looking for help and advice. I don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to my family about it because I think they'll just be angry with me, and when I talked to a close friend about it (who will also be applying for grad school soon and is confused about her life) she just asked me why I hadn't contacted them more frequently. Maybe I made a mistake, I don't know?
Sorry this is so long.
I had one reference who was awesome and wrote for me very quickly. I have another who delayed a bit, but once I got into contact with her was happy to write me the reference as well. I have two others that I am having major problems with, but the deadlines have already passed and I don't know if they wrote for me or not.
One is my college advisor who told me she would write, but I kept getting updates that she hadn't. I reminded her, she said she'd been busy and was doing it, but then I never heard anything else. Another was my job supervisor - she was very happy to write one for me, but I got updates that said she hadn't. I contacted *her* again and she said she'd been busy but now had a lot of time on her hands and was sitting down to write them. I know she hasn't written one yet (this college was happy to give me an extension on the reference letters) but I'm not sure about the other.
I know for a fact these could be submitted online and were not hard to write. One was just answering five prewritten questions, ranking me on a scale of 1-5 in different areas.
I just don't know what I'm going to do if I don't get into grad school, but especially if it is because I didn't have complete applications. The ship has sailed at this point, and I am constantly having panic attacks, not sure what to do. I submitted everything that I possibly could in a timely matter, and I tried to send reminders without driving them up the wall. I would have found others if I could, but when you submit your materials they ask you specifically who is writing, and that cannot be changed.
I fear I am going to end up jobless and alone - and somehow worse, that my friends and family are going to be incredibly disappointed in me. I just can't take it - I've always been the responsible one and now that life is hitting me hard in the face, I am a disaster.
I guess I'm just looking for help and advice. I don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to my family about it because I think they'll just be angry with me, and when I talked to a close friend about it (who will also be applying for grad school soon and is confused about her life) she just asked me why I hadn't contacted them more frequently. Maybe I made a mistake, I don't know?
Sorry this is so long.