Yorkshire Pudding
21-03-14, 19:10
Dear all
Thank you in advance for reading, I'm really hoping I can get some advice on this one. I'll try keep it brief!
My partner suffers from anxiety and fairly early on in our relationship (several years ago) he admitted that he used Diazepam for a fear of flying and of some other travel situations. Bit by bit, over time, he admitted that he was obtaining these drugs over the internet as he found that the couple of mg tablets his GP was giving him were not enough. We had a couple of bad flights and over the following couple of years I would notice if we ever needed to go anyway via public transport/flights etc he would have a few pints and seem really really drunk, then become quite crabby and easily irritated. I'd originally thought it was just flying but I eventually got it out of him that it was for pretty much all transport. Holidays were getting difficult as he'd be so out of it on the plane as he'd drink several pints too. After a few difficult conversations/arguments he confessed that his routine was to take several (up to 8) 10mg tablets prior to the flight! With the drink on top it was like he turned into an argumentative toddler and if I'm honest it was really hard to deal with him in such a mood.
A year or so later I stumbled across packets and packets of empty Diazepam packets in a drawer...I was really shocked as I'd perhaps stupidly thought he only used it occasionally...there were so many that I worked out he must be using it on a daily basis. I didn't confront him as he'd been so argumentative about me asking about the Diazepam before that I was worried about the reaction/argument it would likely cause. I instead decided to just keep an eye on things.
Another couple of years passed and the repeated lying chipped away at me. Packets would come through the post and I'd find more and more empty packets. Eventually, about a year ago I finally snapped and told him I'd found all those empty packets years before. It was a tough conversation and with a lot of pushing he finally admitted he'd been taking it on a daily basis, admitting to using 20mg per day for the best part of the last decade.
The fact he's been hiding this for so long really bothers me, I'm worried about the long term health implications too. He drives everyday too...surely this is dangerous? His work is suffering as he's so forgetful...a fact which also drives me nuts!! Sometimes when I talk to him it's like there's a satellite delay...
He's still not booked a doctor's appt to sort this out and makes statements about me not trusting him. This is really upsetting me. What do people here think? Does this all sound like it adds up? Can he be helped? I'm worried about the legality of what he's doing also as he orders off the internet...arrrgggghhh...too many problems!! :weep:
If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it x
Thank you in advance for reading, I'm really hoping I can get some advice on this one. I'll try keep it brief!
My partner suffers from anxiety and fairly early on in our relationship (several years ago) he admitted that he used Diazepam for a fear of flying and of some other travel situations. Bit by bit, over time, he admitted that he was obtaining these drugs over the internet as he found that the couple of mg tablets his GP was giving him were not enough. We had a couple of bad flights and over the following couple of years I would notice if we ever needed to go anyway via public transport/flights etc he would have a few pints and seem really really drunk, then become quite crabby and easily irritated. I'd originally thought it was just flying but I eventually got it out of him that it was for pretty much all transport. Holidays were getting difficult as he'd be so out of it on the plane as he'd drink several pints too. After a few difficult conversations/arguments he confessed that his routine was to take several (up to 8) 10mg tablets prior to the flight! With the drink on top it was like he turned into an argumentative toddler and if I'm honest it was really hard to deal with him in such a mood.
A year or so later I stumbled across packets and packets of empty Diazepam packets in a drawer...I was really shocked as I'd perhaps stupidly thought he only used it occasionally...there were so many that I worked out he must be using it on a daily basis. I didn't confront him as he'd been so argumentative about me asking about the Diazepam before that I was worried about the reaction/argument it would likely cause. I instead decided to just keep an eye on things.
Another couple of years passed and the repeated lying chipped away at me. Packets would come through the post and I'd find more and more empty packets. Eventually, about a year ago I finally snapped and told him I'd found all those empty packets years before. It was a tough conversation and with a lot of pushing he finally admitted he'd been taking it on a daily basis, admitting to using 20mg per day for the best part of the last decade.
The fact he's been hiding this for so long really bothers me, I'm worried about the long term health implications too. He drives everyday too...surely this is dangerous? His work is suffering as he's so forgetful...a fact which also drives me nuts!! Sometimes when I talk to him it's like there's a satellite delay...
He's still not booked a doctor's appt to sort this out and makes statements about me not trusting him. This is really upsetting me. What do people here think? Does this all sound like it adds up? Can he be helped? I'm worried about the legality of what he's doing also as he orders off the internet...arrrgggghhh...too many problems!! :weep:
If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it x