Was out tonight....

[AlMc]

Was wondering if it is just me. I was out tonight for my brothers birthday and me him his fiance and a couple of other friends went to a nice Italian restaurant on the west end of Glasgow ( lovely area). I start off happy and upbeat although all the time fighting off my phobia and anxiety as i had to be there for my bros bday. But as the night goes on i get sadder and sadder to the point i am depressed and literally have to fight back tears as not to embarrass myself. I am home now and find myself to be very down and sad and i don't know why. I do feel really lonely and don't really have anyone i can talk to especially at this moment as everyone is busy. I think i feel this way as when i am out i wish to be like the others who are out, the kind of people who have say there wifes gfs kids and a genuine happy life. Am i the only one who feels/gets this way ?

[MRS STRESS ED]

Hi hun no your not on your own ,when im out I go straight into panic mode its as if its built in saying you cant have a good night ,to be honest I make alsorts of excuses not to go out,I no I should go and face my demoms but like you I get so upset and anxious ,I try to keep pushing myself but its hard as you no hope you feel better soon xx

[AlexandriaUK]

Looking at your picture you don't look very old so plenty of time to have wife and ten kids LOL did you drink?

[AlMc]

Hi hun no your not on your own ,when im out I go straight into panic mode its as if its built in saying you cant have a good night ,to be honest I make alsorts of excuses not to go out,I no I should go and face my demoms but like you I get so upset and anxious ,I try to keep pushing myself but its hard as you no hope you feel better soon xx

Thanks,

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Looking at your picture you don't look very old so plenty of time to have wife and ten kids LOL did you drink?

lol i am 26 and no i don't drink lol... just hate feeling so alone sometimes

[AlexandriaUK]

Lonliness is a pig, but also sometimes when we are feeling down or anxious you can feel lonely In a crowd, at least you make the effort to go out, maybe you could meet up with members from the site in your area

[aprilmoon]

Hi
Everyone else might look like they're having a ball,but scratch the surface,and you'd soon find out that not the case.
I don't mean they're not enjoying themselves,but they'll all have their own problems and hang ups,you can be sure of that.
Its just the way you're feeling at the moment.
You're going out and being with people,that's great,meet as many as you can,even chat to the person that serve's you in a shop,or on the bus,whatever,things happen when we least expect them,including good new things,or ways of looking at situations.
You're a nice,sensitive,caring person.
Give it time and space.
Good luck.

[AlMc]

Thanks guys and gals :D

[melvin]

I'm the same mate so know how you feeling

[MRS STRESS ED]

Its awful anxiety it takes away your confidence it stops you going out to met friends to socialise and before you no it your sat at home no friends and frightened to go out dam anxiety it takes so much away from us we all need to kick its arse xx :D

[littlemrs]

Hi there. You're not alone. I also suffer with social anxiety and as a result have lost contact with all my friends. I rarely go out and when I do it has to be somewhere familiar and only with immediate family. I'm 35 and it bothers me too that I can't be like all those other people who seem so carefree when they're out socialising with friends.

[DEREKG]

Born and raised in Glasgow, personally. Anxiety sucks but maybe it's even harder in a busy city? (I had moved away by the time mine became extreme, mind you)

[Ryan92]

Hi AlMc, I know how you feel. I feel very lonely and worry about my future, if I'll ever have a family or meet someone. I feel really down/depressed often, I don't have anyone to talk to apart from my parents. I hardly have any friends due to my social anxiety so I can feel really lonely, I don't really get out much. You did really well going out with your brother and his fiancee and friends :)

When I do go out, sometimes I feel down that other people around me have partners/friends with them and look happy and I wish I was like them.
Sometimes I feel I'm the only one or worry I'll be like this forever.

At least your brother, his fiance and friends will have been happy you were there with them on your brothers birthday :)

[AlMc]

Hi AlMc, I know how you feel. I feel very lonely and worry about my future, if I'll ever have a family or meet someone. I feel really down/depressed often, I don't have anyone to talk to apart from my parents. I hardly have any friends due to my social anxiety so I can feel really lonely, I don't really get out much. You did really well going out with your brother and his fiancee and friends :)

When I do go out, sometimes I feel down that other people around me have partners/friends with them and look happy and I wish I was like them.
Sometimes I feel I'm the only one or worry I'll be like this forever.

At least your brother, his fiance and friends will have been happy you were there with them on your brothers birthday :)
That is exactly it =( glad someone understands =)

[aprilmoon]

Hi
Are any of you on any meds or anything to help?

[I'mdave27]

Mate I have felt like this many times in life and it sucks to be like it , big time. I always feel like I'm not part of the crowd or one of the 'lads' , not that I want to be , because I'm not crazy about football , I don't gamble and I don't drink alcohol. That's what most people seem to do with time now days as it's easier to go along with everyone is doing , sheeple I call them. The thing is when they are doing all these things with alcohol in they're system they are really not relating to each other like a sober person would because it's only the drink talking and plus drunks are boring

[AlMc]

Thanks for all your replies guys.

[mela26]

definitely not alone, anxiety would paralyse me, I got to the point I couldnt leave the house lucky for me I had some amazing friends who were there for me the whole way and convinced me to see a doctor