harasgenster
27-04-14, 23:46
Ever since I was very young - since I can remember - I've had a nervous laugh. I can't hear it myself, I have no idea I'm doing it, it's completely subconscious. But I'm told that I will emit a short burst of laughter after each sentence (not a 'real laugh' but a little stacatto thing), and I've heard myself do it on recordings.
I didn't used to think about this much because unless someone mentions it I have no idea it's happening. So I also don't know whether it happens all the time or whether it happens in only certain situations.
But it's come up a few times recently. Some perfect strangers have pointed it out (kind of them!) and today I was doing an online interview with the band I'm in and one of the band members pointed out that I just kept laughing "too loud". I didn't remember having laughed at all, so I explained I couldn't hear it (I've told them this before, I don't know why they won't drop it!)
I'd previously told myself there's nothing wrong with a nervous giggle. I've only met one other grown women with this before - and that was recently - and she's a woman I work with. I actually found myself smiling and really enjoying the conversation with her. I knew what she had was a nervous giggle, but it really warned me to her because the laughing made me feel really relaxed.
But after feeling ashamed of it today I did the wrong thing and Googled, just to come up against a lot of search results about how to get rid of nervous laughter and how annoying nervous laughter is, which made me feel really self-conscious - especially as there's no way to control it seeing as I don't know when I'm doing it!
I think there's been a bit of snowball effect here, because this has come after a friend told me the reason men don't come onto me as much as they used to is because I'm shy and "men don't like that". I know that's not necessarily true, but I also believe coming across nervous can make other people feel more nervous, so there's a kernel of truth there. I'm not just bothered about men liking me - I like attention, of course, but I'm not looking for a relationship right now - I'm more bothered about making friends, and this comment just sort of made me feel a lot more self-conscious than before.
So I wondered what others thought. Nervous laughter: Annoying? Uncomfortable? Or pleasant?
I didn't used to think about this much because unless someone mentions it I have no idea it's happening. So I also don't know whether it happens all the time or whether it happens in only certain situations.
But it's come up a few times recently. Some perfect strangers have pointed it out (kind of them!) and today I was doing an online interview with the band I'm in and one of the band members pointed out that I just kept laughing "too loud". I didn't remember having laughed at all, so I explained I couldn't hear it (I've told them this before, I don't know why they won't drop it!)
I'd previously told myself there's nothing wrong with a nervous giggle. I've only met one other grown women with this before - and that was recently - and she's a woman I work with. I actually found myself smiling and really enjoying the conversation with her. I knew what she had was a nervous giggle, but it really warned me to her because the laughing made me feel really relaxed.
But after feeling ashamed of it today I did the wrong thing and Googled, just to come up against a lot of search results about how to get rid of nervous laughter and how annoying nervous laughter is, which made me feel really self-conscious - especially as there's no way to control it seeing as I don't know when I'm doing it!
I think there's been a bit of snowball effect here, because this has come after a friend told me the reason men don't come onto me as much as they used to is because I'm shy and "men don't like that". I know that's not necessarily true, but I also believe coming across nervous can make other people feel more nervous, so there's a kernel of truth there. I'm not just bothered about men liking me - I like attention, of course, but I'm not looking for a relationship right now - I'm more bothered about making friends, and this comment just sort of made me feel a lot more self-conscious than before.
So I wondered what others thought. Nervous laughter: Annoying? Uncomfortable? Or pleasant?