xfilme
04-05-14, 17:25
Hello everyone,
thought Id write a quick post because Im feeling a little flat to be honest.
Ive suffered with social anxiety all my life but lately its worried me Im destined to spend my life alone. Im a 36 years old woman (though I feel more like a girl) and I havent even been on a date for 7 years now. Even then, my last relationship was only four months long so apart from that, ive been single for 12 years. Its getting a little depressing.
Im not unattractive and I dont have a horrible personality, Im just too fearful of meeting people. I have had three relationship. The first was for three years, the second for two years and the third for a year. I dont count the four month one because I dont think he ever really considered me his girlfriend. None of the relationships were all that great and they kinda bruised myself esteem. After my last short relationship in 2007, my mum passed away. I lost my confidence, and nothing has happened since.
I think because of all that, plus the fact I suffered from debilitating health anxiety for four years as a bereavement complication, I developed a chronic fear of failure. Due to my social anxiety, I have no close friends. I cannot meet a potential partner because Ive nobody to go out with. Even if I did see someone, I naturally presume they wouldnt want me so I dont even bother trying. Somethings got to give. I really am tired of being alone. I have tried using dating sites, but I am too scared messaging men because I believe Im not good enough and they wouldnt like me because Im an introvert, I dont drink and Im socially awkward, especially in new situations. Even if I do pluck up the courage to messsage someone and we seem to get on, Im too afraid to meet them because the idea fills me with dread, fear of rejection, and a fear on intimacy.
I didnt realise all of this was happening to me until it had already happened. Im at a loss knowing what to do. Ive tried therapy but that didnt help. Im not depressed, Im not even lonely (which is even more worrying), Im just tired of being by myself when Id like to have someone to be around.
Im concerned that I no longer see anyone Im attracted to? Whats that about? And no, its not confusion over my sexuality as I dont find men or women Im attracted to. I want to meet my prince charming, but where I live (in portsmouth) there only appears to be the opposite.... and I cant get out there to look in places where youd find differnt groups of men, because I feel to uncomfortable braving it alone.
Theres got to be someone else out there in the same boat that I can talk to. Its driving me nuts only having myself to help me find a solution.
Can anyone else relate?
thought Id write a quick post because Im feeling a little flat to be honest.
Ive suffered with social anxiety all my life but lately its worried me Im destined to spend my life alone. Im a 36 years old woman (though I feel more like a girl) and I havent even been on a date for 7 years now. Even then, my last relationship was only four months long so apart from that, ive been single for 12 years. Its getting a little depressing.
Im not unattractive and I dont have a horrible personality, Im just too fearful of meeting people. I have had three relationship. The first was for three years, the second for two years and the third for a year. I dont count the four month one because I dont think he ever really considered me his girlfriend. None of the relationships were all that great and they kinda bruised myself esteem. After my last short relationship in 2007, my mum passed away. I lost my confidence, and nothing has happened since.
I think because of all that, plus the fact I suffered from debilitating health anxiety for four years as a bereavement complication, I developed a chronic fear of failure. Due to my social anxiety, I have no close friends. I cannot meet a potential partner because Ive nobody to go out with. Even if I did see someone, I naturally presume they wouldnt want me so I dont even bother trying. Somethings got to give. I really am tired of being alone. I have tried using dating sites, but I am too scared messaging men because I believe Im not good enough and they wouldnt like me because Im an introvert, I dont drink and Im socially awkward, especially in new situations. Even if I do pluck up the courage to messsage someone and we seem to get on, Im too afraid to meet them because the idea fills me with dread, fear of rejection, and a fear on intimacy.
I didnt realise all of this was happening to me until it had already happened. Im at a loss knowing what to do. Ive tried therapy but that didnt help. Im not depressed, Im not even lonely (which is even more worrying), Im just tired of being by myself when Id like to have someone to be around.
Im concerned that I no longer see anyone Im attracted to? Whats that about? And no, its not confusion over my sexuality as I dont find men or women Im attracted to. I want to meet my prince charming, but where I live (in portsmouth) there only appears to be the opposite.... and I cant get out there to look in places where youd find differnt groups of men, because I feel to uncomfortable braving it alone.
Theres got to be someone else out there in the same boat that I can talk to. Its driving me nuts only having myself to help me find a solution.
Can anyone else relate?