UnknownUser
18-05-14, 10:43
I have a huge fear of death and not existing anymore. I have suffered from this before, when I was about 12, and then it went away for many years. Now I am 25 and it's come back full swing :(
Every morning I wake up and I imagine my own death. I imagine myself old, with no time left, nobody can help me, and everyone is just waiting for me to die...then I'm gone, switched off like a light, nothingness. It horrifies me to the point where I am shaking and nauseous. Then I think that this new day means I am one day closer to the end of my life. It's also one day closer to the end of my loved ones' lives. I have to keep checking Facebook to see that my grandparents are still ok because I live abroad. It's absolutely horrifying to go through this every single day. I break down crying to my boyfriend begging him not to die and not to stop existing, he's amazing for putting up with this. I am struggling to function like this, it's been going on for over a month. Whenever I am alone without any distractions the death thoughts come back, like they're intrusive, it's resulted in me being afraid of being in the shower for example...for the past few days I have had my boyfriend come with me and that helped a lot, but when he is at work I am alone :(. I haven't worked for a month because of my anxiety.
I'm on medication (20mg citalopram for four weeks now, and I have some benzo pills). Therapy is not an option for me because I simply cannot afford it :( there are not many free options, especially for a foreigner as I live abroad. Because I can't afford therapy I have looked up advice online but that only makes me worse. I see things like "don't dwell on death, it happens to everyone"...great, if I could stop dwelling on it then I wouldn't be in this mess! And "Oh it'll be just like before you were born...was that so bad?"...yes! It would be awful to go back to not existing, that is exactly what I am scared of!
This is getting longer than I intended. Ï wonder if anyone has ever overcome severe death anxiety? Because I feel like it's an unsolvable fear and I feel doomed. All the "advice" just gives me panic attacks. I hope science can make me live longer so I can make up for the days I am wasting over this fear. Often I wish I had never been born purely so that I would never have to know death, because if we just die and that's it then everything is utterly pointless. I feel like the only reason I am not totally insane is because I am agnostic rather than atheist, if I knew with 100% certainty that there was nothing after death I think I would completely break. I'm really scared! Am I a lost cause? :(
Every morning I wake up and I imagine my own death. I imagine myself old, with no time left, nobody can help me, and everyone is just waiting for me to die...then I'm gone, switched off like a light, nothingness. It horrifies me to the point where I am shaking and nauseous. Then I think that this new day means I am one day closer to the end of my life. It's also one day closer to the end of my loved ones' lives. I have to keep checking Facebook to see that my grandparents are still ok because I live abroad. It's absolutely horrifying to go through this every single day. I break down crying to my boyfriend begging him not to die and not to stop existing, he's amazing for putting up with this. I am struggling to function like this, it's been going on for over a month. Whenever I am alone without any distractions the death thoughts come back, like they're intrusive, it's resulted in me being afraid of being in the shower for example...for the past few days I have had my boyfriend come with me and that helped a lot, but when he is at work I am alone :(. I haven't worked for a month because of my anxiety.
I'm on medication (20mg citalopram for four weeks now, and I have some benzo pills). Therapy is not an option for me because I simply cannot afford it :( there are not many free options, especially for a foreigner as I live abroad. Because I can't afford therapy I have looked up advice online but that only makes me worse. I see things like "don't dwell on death, it happens to everyone"...great, if I could stop dwelling on it then I wouldn't be in this mess! And "Oh it'll be just like before you were born...was that so bad?"...yes! It would be awful to go back to not existing, that is exactly what I am scared of!
This is getting longer than I intended. Ï wonder if anyone has ever overcome severe death anxiety? Because I feel like it's an unsolvable fear and I feel doomed. All the "advice" just gives me panic attacks. I hope science can make me live longer so I can make up for the days I am wasting over this fear. Often I wish I had never been born purely so that I would never have to know death, because if we just die and that's it then everything is utterly pointless. I feel like the only reason I am not totally insane is because I am agnostic rather than atheist, if I knew with 100% certainty that there was nothing after death I think I would completely break. I'm really scared! Am I a lost cause? :(